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The Joan Jerkovich Show: Transgender, Female In a Male Body

I’ve decided to write this blog differently than my other blogs.  I’m going to relay in a brutally honest way the very personal reactions and feelings I had when meeting and interviewing a transgender female, Stephanie Mott.  Before you read on, however, I want you to know that Stephanie stands out as one of my most favorite guests.  Her spirit moved me.  It was a privilege to meet her.

My first meeting with a transgender female…….

Stephanie Mott

Of course, the first thing I did when Stephanie walked in the door was size up her outfit, how she looked and what she was wearing.  That’s not to say that, being female, I don’t do that with every woman I meet, but this just seemed different.  I had a heightened awareness of the fact that in walked a female Stephanie, who had been born a male Stephen.

While I consider myself open and accepting of all people, I’m ashamed to say I was momentarily panicked when needing to direct Stephanie to the restroom.  Mens room, or Ladys room?  I’d never been in this situation before and for a moment I didn’t know what to do.  Having to make a split second decision, I know I made the right one by directing Stephanie to the Ladys room.

Once Stephanie and I got settled in to the recording studio two things I noticed right away were how soft, soothing and feminine her voice was.  She also had beautifully feminine hands with long slender fingers and well manicured, but unpolished, nails.  I would have traded Stephanie hands in a second, hers were so beautiful.  I complimented her on her hands and she thanked me.  I could tell she appreciated that compliment.

As Stephanie is the founder and Executive Director of KSTEP, the Kansas Statewide Transgender Education Project, I knew that she was media savvy and had a wealth of knowledge and information to share on transgender issues.  I learned a lot from Stephanie but I especially had empathy for her when she talked about her life as a little boy.  I can’t imagine knowing from the first she can remember that she was a girl born in to the wrong body.

There was nothing masculine about Stephanie at all and her energy came across so naturally and effortlessly feminine, that I came to feel like I was just having a fun morning of “girl chat”.  That’s why it surprised me, and I may have even jumped a bit, when Stephanie momentarily popped in to her natural deep and booming male voice.  Stephanie was telling me how she had to learn to talk like a woman because the hormones did not change her voice.

Stephanie relayed a few significant changes she noticed going from male to female.  One comment she made was how, after living 40 years as a man, it was surprising for her to feel that her “opinions don’t count” as a woman.  To that I told her, ‘welcome to my world Stephanie!”.  We bonded over that and also over talking about the awareness for safety we women have to have when going out alone late at night.

A very cool interview.  Listen in Saturday morning October 15, then meet Stephanie at the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Salina, Sunday the 16th, 910 Beatrice at 10:15 am.  Very Cool!  Thanks Stephanie!

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