I should have listened to my friends who knew his ex, but I didn’t think he’d also cheat on me. He stuck with me through Valentines Day, but the day after, told me he’d gotten a girl drunk at a party and hooked up with her. He wanted to break up, but he was my first serious boyfriend and I begged him back. How can I trust him?
Ouch! Do you really think it’s worth the effort to even try to build trust with this guy? You mention that you wish you had listened to your girlfriends before, what are they saying now? Sometimes, if we’re really willing to listen, our friends do have a more objective view on what is best for us. Any chance we’ll be seeing this guy listed on the “bad boyfriend” Internet sites?
Give some serious thought to what you want out of a relationship and don’t sell yourself short. If you need to, sit down and write out all the reasons you are a really great girl and deserve a really great boyfriend! Get with your girlfriends and let them tell you why you deserve to be with someone who deserves your trust. Real girlfriends don’t act like those catty reality show housewives…they’re more Sex and The City gal pals…there for each other, supporting each other! Women all over support you~you go girl!
Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~
- What do you need from this relationship to rebuild trust?
- How are you going to communicate this to your boyfriend?
- How will you hold him accountable to providing for what you need to build trust?
- If he breaks your trust what will your next step be?
- What can you do to take care of your emotions during this trying time in your relationship?
Joan Jerkovich is a Board Certified Life Coach who takes your questions on Relationships, Health, Careers, Sexuality and Self Care. No question is off limits! She gives her opinion, then partners with you by submitting Life Coaching questions that will help you move toward health and happiness in your life. Email your questions to email@example.com or arrange a time to talk with Joan in person on her radio talk show at www.joanjerkovich.com