I’ve tried to raise my own family in a positive environment but whenever I’m with my parents and extended family all they do is sit and talk poorly about the family members who aren’t present. They’re so critical I don’t like to have my kids around them. How do I protect my kids from their negativity?
First of all, I’m sure you realize that you’re not going to change your family of origin. You’ve been witnessing and living this negativity your whole life and that may be the reason you’re focused on keeping things positive with your own children. Kudos to you! It’s never too late to change negative patterns!
Depending on the ages of your children, you have a few options here. When they’re small you can probably distract them away from the grown-up conversations. As they get older, they may choose to join in on the adult conversation, which means they will get an earful of negativity. The good thing about older kids is that they are aware enough, and mature enough, to understand the differences in the way people act, and re-act, around others. This can be a good opportunity to teach your older children that, in life, we all have to learn how to deal with negative people. We have to develop strategies for either minimizing our time with them or minimizing the impact they have on our lives. Others may choose to be negative, but we always have the choice of how to act, and how to re-act. The choice is ours and within our control. To quote from the film, Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade…”Choose Wisely!”.
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- What life lessons can you teach your children as they witness the exchange of negativity in your family?
- Is there a way to stay connected to family but minimize your time with them?
- How can you minimize, or “shake off”, the negativity from when you’re around them?
- How can this experience help you grow as a person and as a parent?
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