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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Critical Daughter-in-law?

Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Critical Daughter-in-law?

When I became a grandmother I quickly discovered that my sons wife was not going to agree with any of my grand parenting methods. She has imposed so many rules that I barely feel free to enjoy my grand kids. No paddle boating or jet skiing at the lake (too dangerous) no snacks unless she approves first (my grandma cookies might be unhealthy)?!  Our relationship has always been tense but this is ridiculous!  What’s a Grandparent to do?

Let me guess…she wouldn’t be happy with you building a sand castle, finger-painting or baking cupcakes with your grand kids?  You don’t feed them, dress them, or potty them the right way, and its amazing that you successfully raised your son to adulthood?!  She’s either a nervous helicopter parent or a control freak or simply being passive-aggressive with you…for your sake I hope it’s not the latter.

Wise grandparents have told me that its best to follow the rules set by the parents and keep your mouth shut!  Who likes to do that when we all know that you are the wiser and more experienced caretaker, yet, did your parents always agree with the way you raised your kids?  Were you happy when they kept their parenting advice to themselves unless asked for?  Try adopting an attitude of loving support as you follow the lead of your son and his wife. I sense that trying to change your daughter-in- law will only cause a rift and may cost you precious moments with your grandchildren.

Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~

  • What have you learned about keeping the peace with your Daughter-in-law?
  • What does she say or do that really triggers you and raises your ire?
  • How can you anticipate and embrace yourself for those triggers?
  • What action, inaction or stress reducing thoughts can you employ to avert or diffuse her triggers?

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Joan Jerkovich, Board Certified Coach

Joan Jerkovich is a Board Certified Life Coach. Contact her with your questions, or arrange a time to talk with Joan in person on her radio talk show!

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