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4 Strategies For Losing Those Last 10 Pounds

4 Strategies For Losing Those Last 10 Pounds

You were successful in getting close to your weight loss goal, but those last 10 pounds just keep hanging on. John has already lost 40 pounds, but he’s on a mission to lose those last pounds to hit his goal weight. This weekend on The Joan Jerkovich Show, we explore ways to recapture the weight loss mindset, and recommit to losing those stubborn, last few pounds. We came up with some creative ways to get back on track. If your treadmill has become your secondary clothes closet where it gathers clothes and dust, try these 4 things experts in weight loss agree will take off those last 10 pounds. 1. Review your diet. Often, the lack of progress toward weight loss, or worse, gaining what you’ve lost back, is a result of your cheating on your diet plan. Where you were once so faithful and diligent, you’ve convinced yourself that cheating a few times won’t hurt. It does. Failing to monitor what you eat by either writing it down on putting it in a diet AP lets you fall into the habit of unconscious eating. Unconsciously eating what you want, when you want, is what probably led to your weight gain in the first place. Review your diet and monitor your eating to get back on track. 2. Reduce your calories. As you lose weight, your body needs fewer calories than it did when you were 50 pounds heavier. I know this stinks, but to maintain your weight at a lower level, you need to eat even less than you ever have. 3. Increase your activity. Take the stairs at work, or wear a pedometer and focus on walking more. Tackle those household chores or home fix-up, clean-up projects as a way to get moving. Volunteer to help an elderly

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9 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

9 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

When you’re new to a relationship, the flutter of attraction and romance can disguise the reality of the person you are dating. If you’re not paying attention to these 9 red flags, you could find yourself in a relationship with, not the person of your dreams, but the partner of your nightmares. The first 4 red flags focus on their past, their past, their past. 1. Past history of abuse. 2. Past history of addictions. 3. Past history of cheating. If you find out that your new love interest brought any one of these three things to their past relationships, you don’t have to look further for red flags. What you do have to do is honestly ask yourself if you are willing to be in a relationship where you will be abused, cheated on, or have to deal with their addiction. It’s not a matter of thinking that these things “might” affect you. They “will” affect you. The only hope for these 3 biggest red flags to turn from a big red “STOP!” sign, into a yellow “CAUTION!” sign, is if they readily accept personal responsibility and are actively working a program for change. While abuse, addictions and cheating can weave its way through a relationship in ways that aren’t always an absolute relationship deal breaker, the 4th red flag is undeniably problematic. 4. Past history of criminal activity. If you find out that the person you are dating has a criminal history and spent time in jail, you can assume they were guilty no matter what story they spin. That also holds true for any order of protection for stalking or domestic violence. In these instances, our legal system has done the work for you of determining this person has a serious red flag in their history. 5.

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8 Reasons Good Girls Fall For Bad Boys

8 Reasons Good Girls Fall For Bad Boys

Why don’t you leave him? Why do you let him treat you so bad? These are the questions your friends and family may be asking you if you’re in a relationship with a bad boy who mistreats you, cheats on you, or just tears you down. If you yourself have begun to wonder why you stay, look for your answer in these 8 reasons good girls fall for bad boys. 1. They want a project boy Many good women see themselves as “fixers”. They want to fix their bad boy. They believe the “victim stories” these men have told them about why they’re broken, and these good women believe that with enough love and compassion they can help him change. What they don’t realize is that these “victim stories” can be a way for these men to deny responsibility for their bad behavior. 2. The martyr syndrome The women who has given all of herself to helping fix her bad boy, or to surviving his mean, cheating, lying ways, sees herself as helpless or trapped. She gains some psychological reward for being the victim. That, or her religious beliefs, where self-sacrifice is an honorable way to live, keeps her in a relationship that is clearly not good for her. 3. He reminds her of Dear Old Dad If your father was himself a bad boy or was emotionally unavailable, you’re more likely to fall for a bad boy in an attempt to right the wrong that was dealt you with a distant, cold, or mean father. This time around, you’re going to fix things and make your relationship right. 4. They’re ostriches living with their head in the sand Bury your head deep enough, and you can’t see what’s going on around you. These good girls deny just how bad

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The First I Met A Transgender Female

The First I Met A Transgender Female

Transgender is in the news with the announcement by Bruce Jenner, our American Olympic hero, that he is transgender and making the transition from male to female. Yet, how many of us have actually had the opportunity to sit down and talk frankly with a transgender person to hear their side of the story? In October 2011 I had that opportunity when I interviewed Stephanie Mott, the Executive Director of the Kansas Statewide Transgender Education Project. It was an eye-opening conversation which prompted me to write this blog differently than my other blogs. I’m going to relay in a brutally honest way the very personal reactions and feelings I had when meeting and interviewing a transgender female, Stephanie Mott. Before you read on, however, I want you to know that Stephanie stands out as one of my most favorite radio talk show guests. Her spirit moved me. It was a privilege to meet her. These are my reactions to my first meeting with a transgender female, Stephanie Mott Of course, the first thing I did when Stephanie walked in the door was size up her outfit, how she looked and what she was wearing. That’s not to say that, being female, I don’t do that with every woman I meet, but this just seemed different. I had a heightened awareness of the fact that in walked a female Stephanie, who had been born a male Stephen. While I consider myself open and accepting of all people, I’m ashamed to say I was momentarily panicked when needing to direct Stephanie to the restroom. Men’s room, or Lady’s room? I’d never been in this situation before and for a moment I didn’t know what to do. Having to make a split second decision, I know I made the right one by directing

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What You Need To Know About The “Black Sheep” In Your Family

What You Need To Know About The "Black Sheep" In Your Family

The “Most Wanted Criminals” family member whose picture shows up in the online public posting. The goth child with spiked hair, multiple body piercings, and cringe-worthy body modifications. The gay uncle who brings his new, years-younger boyfriend to the family event and is “all over him” to where you want to tell them to “get a room!” The addict who comes to the family reunion drunk and staggers around spilling his drink on the guests… Whoever the “Black Sheep” is in your family, maybe they are just misunderstood. Who gets the label of Black Sheep? Families will give the label of “Black Sheep” to the individual who doesn’t follow the pack. They don’t fit the norm of the family group. This can be in the areas of how they dress and look, or in who they choose as a life partner. Maybe they just have a different set of values and beliefs about religion and politics. Whatever it is that makes them different, they are an outsider; they are the “Black Sheep” of the family. Where does the Black Sheep label come from? According to wikipedia.org, the term Black Sheep is used to describe an odd or disreputable member within a family. This comes from the fact that in flocks of white sheep (the animal, not human kind), a recessive gene will show up with the birth of a black sheep. This black sheep stands out in the flock much like the goth child with spiked hair and piercings would stand out in a preppy, upwardly mobile family unit. Hence, the Black Sheep in the family. As expected, the straight and narrow family members will judge the unusual personality negatively, and possibly characterize them as a deviant. Especially if it tarnishes their social reputation in their community! What sets the

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Online Piracy, Read This Before You Download Your Favorite Episode Of “Game of Thrones”

Online Piracy, Read This Before You Download Your Favorite Episode Of "Game of Thrones"

Writers, musicians, filmmakers and artists love to create. Online pirates love to steal their creations. Artists whose creations have reached a modicum of success have spent years honing their craft. They’ve spent countless hours writing or recording only to spend countless more hours re-writing and re-recording to get their book, song or screenplay to a point of artistic expression they can be proud of. Online pirates love to sit at their computers looking for creative works to steal and disseminate. They get a thrill from stealing, hoping to make money while not getting caught. Or, they feel justified in downloading their favorite TV series for free. After all, don’t those big production companies make millions? Pirates rob, plunder and hijack. Artists produce the music, art, and films that fill voids in our lives. Just as you want your personal property to be protected, artists deserve to have their intellectual property protected by our laws. Based on the number of downloads, BitTorrent reported that “Game of Thrones” was the most pirated TV show in 2014. It was downloaded 8.1 million times. The second most downloaded show was “The Walking Dead” with 4.8 million downloads, then “The Big Bang Theory” with 3.9 million downloads. That’s a whole lot of plundering and hijacking. Arts.mic reports that “Game of Thrones” costs 6 million per episode to make. “Big Bang Theory” costs 2 million. Without profits, which are diminished by online piracy, these productions would cease. As reported at RIIA.com (the Recording Industry Association Website), digital content theft of music has been devastating to the industry. “Employment at the major U.S. music companies has declined by thousands of workers.” Think about the fact that every time you pirate digital media in the form of music, movies or a television series, you are contributing to taking

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School Officials Let Popular Student Get Away With Bullying

School Officials Let Popular Student Get Away With Bullying

This father wants to do the right thing by his son who is being bullied by the popular kid at school, but he also wants to work within the system of school administrators in a reasonable way. He’s not about making waves; he just wants to protect his son. Ed first heard from his son about the bullying. Soon after, he found out that the school officials knew his son was being bullied at school, but he was never notified. As this father delved deeper in to the issue, he came to feel like this bully was “getting away with it” because his parents are very involved in the school’s athletic programs. The bully’s parents, in response to hearing that their son was being accused of being a bully, were heard to say that this was all because their son is “popular.” When your child is bullied, and school officials know about it but don’t notify you, what is a father to do? Ed felt that the school officials weren’t taking the aggression toward his son seriously. As taken from violencepreventionworks.org, when schools don’t take action against bullies, the entire climate of the school can be affected. An environment of fear and disrespect develops. Students can begin to dislike school. School administrators who take the stance of “looking the other way” or “letting bullies off the hook” can leave students feeling insecure. All can adversely impact learning. When action isn’t taken at our schools to address bullying, the students can begin to feel that their teachers and school principal don’t care about them as individuals. That, or they can be seen as ineffective in controlling the student population. Eventually, school officials will be called to task and the community as a whole may get involved. Parents, like Ed, won’t stand

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Dating Mr. Peter Pan

Dating Mr. Peter Pan

Mr. Peter Pan Never-Never wants to grow up and wants to live with you in his version of Never-Never Land where you are his Wendy (a.k.a momma) taking care of all the adult things he doesn’t have time for. What does he have time for? Hangin’ with his lost boys. While Mr. Peter Pan’s life is full of adventure and fun he can’t be counted on to take the adult lead in his life, much less be an adult partner to you, so don’t frustrate yourself and expect it. He’s Mr. Self-Involvement who has plenty of time for playing his way through life. He’s like the man my Life Coaching caller talked about who, in her words, “needs constant petting”. He’s Mr. High Maintenance who wants you to take care of him, organize his life, fix his problems, and in general “be his momma.” Dating him is like dating a 12 year old. You always have to be pointing him in the right direction. Do you want to mamma your man? If your man is a Peter Pan you’ll have the sense of feeling more like his parent and less like his partner. You’ll feel frustrated that he never seems to want to advance in his career and instead is complacent with a low level job. His priority isn’t work, it’s play. You’ll find yourself watching from the sidelines while he spends more time, energy, and money on his newer, bigger, better set of toys, than he does on you. He can’t even be counted on to pay his bills because his budget for toys takes precedence. Besides, momma will dig into her pocket and pay for those silly adult things. You’re no fun to play with, unless it’s “adult” playtime. You’ll watch your Peter Pan hang with his lost

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3 Questions To Help You Get A Grip On Procrastination

3 Questions To Help You Get A Grip On Procrastination

Procrastinating is more common than one might think. Who hasn’t taken a look at that dreaded “to-do” list, only to decide it can wait? Who hasn’t fallen away from the “drudge” list, right onto the couch or easy chair for an afternoon of mindless net surfing, or Netflix streaming? Even if you’re a get-it-done type of person, when haven’t you tackled your list of “tasks” by prioritizing the easiest, most unimportant ones first? All of these habits have one thing in common. They are your unique way of procrastinating. Ask yourself these 3 questions to get a grip on procrastination. Listen to “The Joan Jerkovich Show” podcast where I talk about procrastination and discuss ways to address this habit with 2 of my callers. Also, just for kicks, listen to my caller, “The Trust Fund Bartender” and hear “Confessions of a Trust Fund Kid”. Question 1: What are your procrastination habits? Damnit! No one is going to tell me that on the occasional day when I take a break from work for mindless net surfing, or streaming the latest documentary, or playing Candy Crush that I’m procrastinating. Yes, I’m the girl who has the occasional fall into my favorite easy chair! And, damnit, I’m here to say that infrequently diverting from the tasks at hand is not procrastination. In fact, it could be categorized as good time management. We all need down time to rest and regroup. That said, procrastination becomes a problem if it’s your first response to getting things done. Answer these questions to see if you find yourself in the habit of procrastinating: Do you always put off doing the priority items on your “to do” list? Do you busy yourself with menial tasks? How long has your priority item been sitting on your “to-do” list? Do

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If You’ve Fallen Out Of Love, Here’s How To Win Your Love Back

If You've Fallen Out Of Love, Here's How To Win Your Love Back

When the first blush of romance hits, it’s like you’re walking through life with your feet floating above ground. You glide through your days and nights, barely noticing what’s happening around you. All you feel is your new love, and life is perfect! Your friends see the change in you. They notice the doe-eyed, far-off look, or the giddy laughter when you talk about your new flame. Chances are, your besties will know that you’ve fallen in love before you do! Ahhhhh! Falling is love is such a sweet thing. We all hope those moments of bliss will last forever. But, they will not. While new love can turn into a steady-as-she-goes love that you can depend on, if your relationship has taken a turn from bliss to blistering, it’s time to work at winning your love back. Is this a love you want back First, determine what has happened in your relationship to disconnect you from each other. Familiarity, inattention, busy careers, differing interests, and parenting responsibilities can chip away at your love. Those you can deal with. However, the really tough stuff of infidelity, abuse, addictions and lies can set your relationship on a course of self-destruction. Whatever has caused your relationship to drift apart, before you can commit to bringing it back together, you need to make sure that’s what you want to, and need to do. If the distance in your relationship has been brought on by hurtful destructive patterns, you need to take a serious look at whether or not this relationship is good for you. If your relationship is all shades of dysfunctional, beware. Instead of trying to rekindle your love, yours is the type of relationship that needs a massive overhaul, or maybe even a permanent disconnect, because love isn’t supposed to hurt.

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