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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Still Single at 42?

Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Still Single at 42?

I’m a 42-year-old male and had always expected to be married with children by now, but after several long-term relationships I’m still single.  I keep busy so I’m not lonely, just tired of being alone.  Any thoughts? There are 3 thoughts that I’d like to impart:  First, while you would love to be married with children, this may not happen for you.  Acceptance is key here.  Accepting that life hands us challenges that aren’t fair, and piss us off, and make us want to sit on our pity pot and whine all day, is the part of life and living that, simply said, “Sucks”!  Do whatever you need to find acceptance that this is your (current) lot in life.  Release your frustration in the gym or go smash some golf balls; then seek acceptance by going inward…dare I say meditation and yoga? Second, live your life for now.  Make it enriching, exciting and self-fulfilling.  Ponder the benefits of being single, such as, not having to answer to anyone else, not getting in trouble (like your married friends) for eyeing an attractive woman or spending money on yourself.  I guarantee that there are elements of your life your married friends envy! Finally, don’t give up on love.  Analyze your leisure activities to see how available you are making yourself to meeting women.  Let your family and friends know that you are still looking for love as they may think you are content with the single life.  If you haven’t been winning at love, change your game. Make meeting women and dating a priority project and approach it as you would a business venture.  You know the drill…just do it! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ Where can you go inwardly and outwardly to find acceptance? What is on your bucket

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Crush on Gay Friend?

Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Crush on Gay Friend?

My gay guy friend would be my perfect guy to marry except that…he’s gay!  He’s good-looking (we would make beautiful babies together), smart, fun and has a good job.  When we go out for dinner I dress up and pretend we’re on a date.  I know there’s no hope for a relationship with him because he’s not, even a little bit, bi-curious. I can’t help but have a crush on him…should I tell him?  Life just isn’t fair is it?  It seems that we can expand that saying of, “all the good ones are married” to “all the good ones are gay!”  Both are, of course, exaggerations! You ask if you should tell him about your crush, yet, don’t you think he already knows this? He may be gay but he’s still a guy and I’m sure you aren’t the first girl to crush on him or at least flirt with him.  Right?  The problem with being a Fag Hag is that you’re into guys…but so is he!  Soooo, of course you’re going to react to his cuteness and coolness and think he’s perfect~but it will never work to come on to him in a sexual or romantic way~and it may destroy the good friendship you do have.  Enjoy your one-of-a-kind special friendship.  Many women would love to have a gay bestie…myself included! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ What would be gained in your relationship if you tell him about your crush? How do you nurture the unrealistic fantasy that you are “THE Woman” who can change your friend’s sexual preferences? How does that fantasy serve you; or not serve you? Does crushing on your gay friend keep you from finding real love?   Copied from urbandictionary.com: You Are A True Fag Hag If…  -You are a straight girl

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Using a Guy you’re Dating?

Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Using a Guy you’re Dating?

Is it wrong for me to keep going out with a guy that I know I will never be serious with?  He’s good looking and OK to go out with because I enjoy the attention and nice dinners out, but I know he’d like our relationship to be more.  Tee Hee…haven’t women been doing this forever?  Haven’t we all gone on dates with guys we really weren’t that into (isn’t there a book by that name?) just to have a nice dinner out or see the latest movie at their expense?  Listen, the way I see it, he gets to enjoy your lovely company for the evening!  Besides, I can make you a list a mile long of women I know who dated a guy FOREVER (I’m talking 5-10 years) hoping that he would marry her.  Then, when she finally breaks up with him, in a matter or days, he’s bedding someone else and sometimes even getting married to the new chick?!?  I say to have your fun for a while, but don’t crush the poor guy by leading him on for too long. Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ How will you know when it’s time to level with the guy and tell him, “I’m just not that into you”? Or…If you like going out with him are you really more into him than you want to admit? What are your personal standards for treating another person with decency and respect while also respecting yourself in relationship? Please SHARE this on Facebook and lend your COMMENTS ~ we learn from each other! Joan Jerkovich is a Board Certified Life Coach. Contact her with your questions, or arrange a time to talk with Joan in person on her radio talk show! Follow Joan’s Life Coaching questions Daily and share

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Intimate with Co-worker?

Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Intimate with Co-worker?

I recently left a job where a coworker and I were intimate. I saw her out last night with another guy. I still have feelings for her but don’t know if I should pursue her. How can I let her know how I feel? Have you tried the communication style of just straight out telling her how you feel?  No games, no strings attached, no beating around the bush; but just telling her openly and honestly that you have feelings for her?  The tricky part here would seem to be that you saw her out with this other guy.  Did it look like they were on a date, or just friends?  Either way, you will have to decide for yourself if your feelings for her are strong enough to weather a possible rejection, or move forward with a relationship.  Either prospect can be scary. If she does decide to go out with you again you may want to define your relationship.  Is this just a “friends with benefits” pairing or do you both agree to move forward in an exclusive relationship?  Having “The Talk” sooner versus later seems to be in order. Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ Are your feelings for this person strong enough to warrant taking the steps to define your relationship? How will you make a plan for telling her how you feel? What will your response be if she rejects you? How will you move your relationship forward if she wants to date? How can you improve the communication you have in relationships? Please SHARE this on Facebook and lend your COMMENTS ~ we learn from each other! Joan Jerkovich is a Board Certified Life Coach. Contact her with your questions, or arrange a time to talk with Joan in person on her radio

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Marry Girlfriend Who Drinks too Much?

Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Marry Girlfriend Who Drinks too Much?

I’ve been dating a girl for 2 years and really think she could be the one except for one thing.  When we go out she always drinks too much to where I end up taking care of her the rest of the night.  When I try to talk to her about her drinking she passes it off like she’s just a party girl having fun. Even her friends don’t get as drunk as she does when we’re out together.  Should I be concerned? Yes. Repeated instances of drinking to the point of drunkenness or passing out are not social drinking.  It is a sure sign of someone who has a problem with alcohol…but you already know this, which is why you are asking this question. You have a difficult decision to make, because if you choose to make her your wife, her drinking will impact all aspects of your life. Assuming she is a problem drinker, odds are that this problem will only get worse over time. What can you expect in a marriage to an alcoholic or binge drinker?  Lies, lies and more lies about the drinking; living in fear that they will get hurt or hurt someone else by drunk driving; a roller coaster of emotions where they can be angry drunk or angry hung-over leading to a higher incidence of abusive behavior; irresponsible behavior with work, finances and children and often an escalation to other drugs. An addicts desire and need for their drug of choice will be all consuming.  Yes, there is the hope of recovery, but be prepared for multiple episodes of relapse.  Sorry, I know this sounds bleak, but that said, I know some really good people who suffer with addictions.  This illness is one of humanities great tragedies. Embrace your Personal Power with

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Daughter take Abusive Boyfriend Back?

Joan Jerkovich "Your" Life Coach~Daughter take Abusive Boyfriend Back?

I never liked my daughter’s boyfriend.  I worried he was the abusive type.  My fears came true when he physically shoved her around knocking her in to the walls.  He left her with bruises, and she filed a police report and protection order, but now she’s talking about getting back with him.  What do I do? Sadly, the reality is that most victims take their abusers back multiple times before they break off with them for good.  This has to be one of the hardest things for a parent to stand by and watch.  I’m sure you feel helpless, and essentially you are.  Your daughter will have to find her own way through this maze of emotional turmoil.  That’s not to say that you can’t be there to support her in any way you can.  Go on a fact-finding mission to learn what you can do to help her.  Your local domestic violence organization is a great place to start. One piece of advice I have is to see if she will sign a No-Contact contract.  This is a written document that is a contract or pledge she makes with herself to have Zero contact with him.  Just have her write out what she needs to do to avoid him completely… NO texts, Facebook, phone calls, driving by his place, and absolutely NO make-up sex (!)…Zero contact.  (NO SEX because the hormones that are released with sex will chemically and biologically keep her feeling attached to him!)  The longer she can maintain Zero contact with him, the easier it will be to extract him from her life and her heart. Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ What plan do you have for learning more about protecting your daughter from domestic abuse? Knowing your daughter, how and when will she

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Girlfriend not doing dishes “right”?

Joan Jerkovich "Your" Life Coach~Girlfriend not doing dishes "right"?

My girlfriend and I take turns doing the dishes. She doesn’t stack the dishes in the washer correctly and they don’t get clean. How can I tell her without losing my dish partner? This sounds like a classic case of “my way is the right way” and “your way is the wrong way” in a relationship.  I’m right and you’re wrong.  This makes me chuckle because after I married my husband I had to get over feeling like he was stacking the dishes in the dishwasher the wrong direction.  Truth is, he wasn’t, he’s just left-handed!  So, while his way seemed backward to me, it was the “right” way for him! Ok, if the dishes really aren’t getting clean, and you aren’t being either OCD, or a controlling jerk about this, you can nicely point out to her how she could do this differently.  That said, what I really want to tell you to do is to just let this one flush on down the drain.  Let it go dude!  Who says your way is the right way?  Are you the dish cop?  What will you learn from just letting this one go?  Try these on for size: acceptance of others and of a different way of doing things; less tension in your relationship; not getting labeled a controlling jerk? So…just plan on rewashing a few dishes, or picking a few dried on crumbs off the plates…I bet you’ll reap the rewards in your relationship outside the kitchen once the dishes are done! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ How could you grow as a person by letting this go? If you try and tell or teach your girlfriend how to do this differently and she doesn’t catch on, what will you do then? At what point will you

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach~Friend’s Husband Cheating

Joan Jerkovich "Your" Life Coach~Friend's Husband Cheating

My best friend’s husband is cheating on her.  I’ve never liked the guy and suspected he could do something like this, but now I have proof.  He’s such scum, I’m so disgusted with him.  I know she’ll be crushed when she finds out, but should I tell her?  I know she doesn’t know.  This is a challenging question and I’m going to invite commenters to jump in with their opinions…here goes my best attempt… Short and sweet, the answer to should you tell her is “No”.  Believe it or not, some women don’t want to know that their husbands are cheating.  Maybe they sense that something is wrong, but aren’t ready to hear the truth.  Maybe they don’t like sex and have an understanding that their husband will have his dalliances and she will look the other way.  Across the ages, married women have “allowed” their husbands to have mistresses, so long as he continues to support her and the children financially.  Personally, I say kick him to the curb, but to each his own… My opinion to not tell may be skewed, because I had this very situation years ago with one of my best friends.  I’d been hearing from her about her husband and his girl-friend.  My red-flag intuition went up, but she seemed to have no concerns over their “friendship” and seemed to almost be encouraging this relationship (my friend didn’t like to have sex with her husband).  Then, I had the occasion to see her husband and his girl-friend at a party.  My friend wasn’t there with her husband and I witnessed this woman flirting all over him and sitting on his lap!  I promptly told my friend what I saw and to this day I don’t think she wanted to hear it.  I felt she

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach: Work with Ex?

Joan Jerkovich "Your" Life Coach: Work with Ex?

My work situation involves being around my ex-boyfriend and working closely with him. We ended on bad terms, and it’s awkward to be around him. How do I relieve that tension? It is reasonable to expect that you won’t relieve the tension.  I know that’s not what you wanted to hear, but I’m sure that if I tried to give you some sure-fire way to make these awkward feelings go away you would know, in your psyche, that I was just spouting off some BS!  Falling in love is all about opening our hearts to let someone else in.  When you do this, you place yourself in a position of being emotionally vulnerable.  This vulnerability is the basis for the hurt of a breakup and the tension you now feel post-breakup. The fact that you can work at all with your Ex is a testament to your professionalism.  While at work, keep your focus on the task at hand; monitor your thoughts and try to keep them on work and off the relationship muck; don’t let on that being around him bothers you (even if it does).  If those things don’t help you can always show him up on the job, outperform him and go for the promotion so you can be his boss and fire his arse!  Yeah! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ What works to calm you in tense situations? How can you incorporate your self-calming methods in to your work situation? Do you feel the need to further process the hurt of this broken relationship? What has helped you heal from past broken relationships? What does “accept the things you cannot change” mean to you? Are there things you can do to help accept that healing a broken heart takes time? Please SHARE this on

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Joan Jerkovich “Your” Life Coach: Boyfriend Cheated?

Joan Jerkovich "Your" Life Coach: Boyfriend Cheated?

I should have listened to my friends who knew his ex, but I didn’t think he’d also cheat on me.  He stuck with me through Valentines Day, but the day after, told me he’d gotten a girl drunk at a party and hooked up with her.  He wanted to break up, but he was my first serious boyfriend and I begged him back. How can I trust him? Ouch!  Do you really think it’s worth the effort to even try to build trust with this guy?  You mention that you wish you had listened to your girlfriends before, what are they saying now?  Sometimes, if we’re really willing to listen, our friends do have a more objective view on what is best for us.  Any chance we’ll be seeing this guy listed on the “bad boyfriend” Internet sites? Give some serious thought to what you want out of a relationship and don’t sell yourself short.  If you need to, sit down and write out all the reasons you are a really great girl and deserve a really great boyfriend!  Get with your girlfriends and let them tell you why you deserve to be with someone who deserves your trust.  Real girlfriends don’t act like those catty reality show housewives…they’re more Sex and The City gal pals…there for each other, supporting each other!  Women all over support you~you go girl! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ What do you need from this relationship to rebuild trust? How are you going to communicate this to your boyfriend? How will you hold him accountable to providing for what you need to build trust? If he breaks your trust what will your next step be? What can you do to take care of your emotions during this trying time in your relationship? Joan

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