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Red Flags In Dating Relationship?

Red Flags In Dating Relationship?

My boyfriend of 2 years has a long history of dating, and sleeping with, many women. I know that he cheated on his last girlfriend, but I cheated on my husband, so I have no room to judge. I don’t trust him, I know he sometimes texts old girlfriends, but I also know he’s been faithful to me. I’m afraid my distrust will drive him away. …and you may be right…failure to find the “trust” you need in this relationship may drive the two of you apart. What you both have brought to your relationship is baggage, truckloads of it! You both have a history of cheating, so it is reasonable for either of you to mistrust. I have been known to caution someone who’s thinking of entering into a relationship with a known cheater, as people are more apt to repeat past behavior. Yet, we do not live in a perfect world. If you are concerned about your mistrust driving him away (even though you do trust that he has been faithful) I’m guessing that he’s been warning you of this possibility. If you want to keep your man you MUST pay heed! Don’t turn a blind eye to his connections with old girlfriends. Instead, approach this issue with open, honest conversation that is voiced in a matter-of-fact, taking-care-of-business way. Pay attention to your tone of voice. Take the accusing, whining, nagging out of these conversations. Leave that for your bitch sessions with girlfriends. We women are emotional creatures and too much emotion makes our men crazy. Save the crazy for the bedroom and you’ll have a win/win on your hands! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ • Could some of your mistrust be coming from within and the fact that you don’t trust yourself in this relationship?

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4 Reasons Good Girls Date Bad Boys; A Man’s Perspective On Bad Boys; Do Nice Guys Have Weak Sperm; Do Women Want to Be Manhandled In Bed

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/5.16.15/5.16.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: 4 Reasons Good Girls Like Bad Boys @ 0:00 A Male Perspective On Women And Bad Boys, Part 1 @ 3:07 A Male Perspective On Women And Bad Boys, Part 2 @ 21:41 Do Nice Guys Have Weak Sperm? Do Women Want To Be Manhandled In Bed? @ 42:56 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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8 Reasons Good Girls Fall For Bad Boys

8 Reasons Good Girls Fall For Bad Boys

Why don’t you leave him? Why do you let him treat you so bad? These are the questions your friends and family may be asking you if you’re in a relationship with a bad boy who mistreats you, cheats on you, or just tears you down. If you yourself have begun to wonder why you stay, look for your answer in these 8 reasons good girls fall for bad boys. 1. They want a project boy Many good women see themselves as “fixers”. They want to fix their bad boy. They believe the “victim stories” these men have told them about why they’re broken, and these good women believe that with enough love and compassion they can help him change. What they don’t realize is that these “victim stories” can be a way for these men to deny responsibility for their bad behavior. 2. The martyr syndrome The women who has given all of herself to helping fix her bad boy, or to surviving his mean, cheating, lying ways, sees herself as helpless or trapped. She gains some psychological reward for being the victim. That, or her religious beliefs, where self-sacrifice is an honorable way to live, keeps her in a relationship that is clearly not good for her. 3. He reminds her of Dear Old Dad If your father was himself a bad boy or was emotionally unavailable, you’re more likely to fall for a bad boy in an attempt to right the wrong that was dealt you with a distant, cold, or mean father. This time around, you’re going to fix things and make your relationship right. 4. They’re ostriches living with their head in the sand Bury your head deep enough, and you can’t see what’s going on around you. These good girls deny just how bad

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Dating Mr. Peter Pan

Dating Mr. Peter Pan

Mr. Peter Pan Never-Never wants to grow up and wants to live with you in his version of Never-Never Land where you are his Wendy (a.k.a momma) taking care of all the adult things he doesn’t have time for. What does he have time for? Hangin’ with his lost boys. While Mr. Peter Pan’s life is full of adventure and fun he can’t be counted on to take the adult lead in his life, much less be an adult partner to you, so don’t frustrate yourself and expect it. He’s Mr. Self-Involvement who has plenty of time for playing his way through life. He’s like the man my Life Coaching caller talked about who, in her words, “needs constant petting”. He’s Mr. High Maintenance who wants you to take care of him, organize his life, fix his problems, and in general “be his momma.” Dating him is like dating a 12 year old. You always have to be pointing him in the right direction. Do you want to mamma your man? If your man is a Peter Pan you’ll have the sense of feeling more like his parent and less like his partner. You’ll feel frustrated that he never seems to want to advance in his career and instead is complacent with a low level job. His priority isn’t work, it’s play. You’ll find yourself watching from the sidelines while he spends more time, energy, and money on his newer, bigger, better set of toys, than he does on you. He can’t even be counted on to pay his bills because his budget for toys takes precedence. Besides, momma will dig into her pocket and pay for those silly adult things. You’re no fun to play with, unless it’s “adult” playtime. You’ll watch your Peter Pan hang with his lost

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Valentines Show: Sex Toys; Rekindle Your Relationship; Soul Mates

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/2.14.15/2.14.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSShow Segments: 1. Rekindle Your Relationship @ 0:00 2. Get Back With Ex? Part 1 @ 5:38 3. Fear of Success. Part 2 @ 23:13 4. What is Your Mates Love Language? @ 43:44 5. Soul Mates @ 45:00 6. Grow Through Relationship Challenges @ 1:03:18 7. Grow Sex Toy Business @ 1:05:09 8. Sex Toy Facts & Figures @ 1:25:01 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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If You’ve Fallen Out Of Love, Here’s How To Win Your Love Back

If You've Fallen Out Of Love, Here's How To Win Your Love Back

When the first blush of romance hits, it’s like you’re walking through life with your feet floating above ground. You glide through your days and nights, barely noticing what’s happening around you. All you feel is your new love, and life is perfect! Your friends see the change in you. They notice the doe-eyed, far-off look, or the giddy laughter when you talk about your new flame. Chances are, your besties will know that you’ve fallen in love before you do! Ahhhhh! Falling is love is such a sweet thing. We all hope those moments of bliss will last forever. But, they will not. While new love can turn into a steady-as-she-goes love that you can depend on, if your relationship has taken a turn from bliss to blistering, it’s time to work at winning your love back. Is this a love you want back First, determine what has happened in your relationship to disconnect you from each other. Familiarity, inattention, busy careers, differing interests, and parenting responsibilities can chip away at your love. Those you can deal with. However, the really tough stuff of infidelity, abuse, addictions and lies can set your relationship on a course of self-destruction. Whatever has caused your relationship to drift apart, before you can commit to bringing it back together, you need to make sure that’s what you want to, and need to do. If the distance in your relationship has been brought on by hurtful destructive patterns, you need to take a serious look at whether or not this relationship is good for you. If your relationship is all shades of dysfunctional, beware. Instead of trying to rekindle your love, yours is the type of relationship that needs a massive overhaul, or maybe even a permanent disconnect, because love isn’t supposed to hurt.

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50 Shades Of Grey, Kinky Makes It To The Movies

50 Shades Of Grey, Kinky Makes It To The Movies

If you haven’t yet read this steamy, sexy, erotic novel that introduced its readers to the BDSM lifestyle, all I can say is, “What have you been waiting for?” “The movie?” Well, wait no more as 50 Shades of Grey the movie is out this Valentines Day! British author, 48 year old Erika Leonard who writes under the pseudonym E.L. James, has described the “Fifty Shades” trilogy as her “midlife crisis” saying, “All my fantasies in there, and that’s it.” Erika shared her fantasies all right, and took millions of us along for the ride with sales now exceeding 100 million worldwide. In the books, Anastasia Steele, the nerdy and bumbling beautiful young college graduate has a chance meeting with the uber successful, young business prodigy Christian Grey. Grey, with his millions, sensual good looks and mysterious persona to go with it, is every woman’s fantasy. Women can’t keep their eyes off of him, and their lustful thoughts from wanting him, but his detached demeanor has prompted rumors that he is gay. The media has never captured a picture of him on a date. There are no date pictures of Grey, he doesn’t “date”, and he doesn’t “make love”, he just F***s, he F****s hard…and off to the “Red Room of Pain” the novel takes its readers. Before spending intimate, romantic time with Grey; excuse me, in keeping with the novels I mean to say, before spending time F-ing with Grey you will need to sign a NDA, Non-Disclosure Agreement; and, before spending time in the “Red Room of Pain”, you will need to sign a contract spelling out what your “hard” and “soft” limits are. “Hard limits” in BDSM are what you will not participate in within the confines of this form of sexual role-playing. Playing “Hard” is Grey’s preference, but oh,

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New Start to New Year, Resolutions That Stick; Dating a Widower; Relationship Rebound

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/1.3.15/1.3.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments:  Issues With Dating a Widow or Widower @ 0:00 Broke Her Engagement to Widower @ 8:41 Scared of Relationship Rebound @ 28:20 Signs You’re in a Rebound Relationship @ 41:45 Get a New Start in the New Year @ 45:01 Leaving Home for the First Time @ 48:35 Following her Dream @ 1:06:43 Make Your News Years Resolutions Stick @ 1:27:52 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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8 Signs You’re In A Rebound Relationship

8 Signs You're In A Rebound Relationship

How do I know if I’m in a rebound relationship? How? Watch for these signs: They just broke up 2 days or 2 weeks ago. Falling in love takes time. Falling out of love also takes time. The person who speeds this process along is only fooling himself or herself and taking you along for a bumpy ride. They have a pattern of going from one relationship to the next, with no breaks in between. I call this the George Clooney factor. Yes, he’s married now, but we all remember the string of monogamous relationships he had for years; one right after the other with hardly a break in between. If your new relationship is with a George Clooney type, I say roll the dice and hope you’re the lucky one who gets the ring and the Big “C”, commitment. If he or she is a regular Joe or Jane Schmo, let them use someone else for their rebound back in to dating. The “are we in an exclusive relationship” talk comes up too soon. If your new relationship goes from one or two dates to the “are we exclusive” talk, things are moving too fast. This is too fast even if this isn’t a rebound relationship. Beware. Too fast can point to desperation, or even worse, a controlling personality. Beware. The recently departed Ex is either too saintly or too devilish. Extremes of emotion toward the Ex are signs that they’re still heavily emotionally invested in the past relationship. The primary emotion to look for that lets you know that they are no longer in love with their Ex is indifference. Intense anger or bitterness, or conversely feeling all lovey-dovey and missing their Ex, are signs they haven’t moved on. Expect to see shades of gray with all these

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No Christmas Engagement?

No Christmas Engagement?

I expected to get an engagement ring this Christmas, but didn’t. My heart almost stopped when my live-in boyfriend of four years handed me the tiny box as we were opening gifts in front of his family. I found it hard to act excited when instead of an engagement ring, I got diamond earrings. We have been talking a lot about getting married this past year but now that I think more about it, I have always been the one to bring it up and he never says “no” to the idea, but he never says “yes”. Since he never out-and-out said “no” I thought he was thinking of marriage. Maybe it was just wishful thinking. Now that I didn’t get the ring, I’m thinking he may never commit. How long do I wait for a marriage proposal? Wow, just reading this my heart stopped too because I could envision you, and probably other family members, thinking there was an engagement ring in the small box. Ouch! That’s a big let down, and I sympathize, but let’s get to your question of how long do you wait for a marriage proposal? First, no one can answer this question for you. However, I do believe there is an answer that will make sense to you, but it will have to come from some serious soul-searching. You will need to sit down with yourself and think through some hard decisions. To do it right, this process won’t be easy and it will take some time. To keep it simple, what I call black and white, ask yourself which is most important to you; to have this relationship (even if he won’t ever marry you), or to be married? Having done Life Coaching with women who’ve called my radio show with this very issue,

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