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School Officials Let Popular Student Get Away With Bullying

School Officials Let Popular Student Get Away With Bullying

This father wants to do the right thing by his son who is being bullied by the popular kid at school, but he also wants to work within the system of school administrators in a reasonable way. He’s not about making waves; he just wants to protect his son. Ed first heard from his son about the bullying. Soon after, he found out that the school officials knew his son was being bullied at school, but he was never notified. As this father delved deeper in to the issue, he came to feel like this bully was “getting away with it” because his parents are very involved in the school’s athletic programs. The bully’s parents, in response to hearing that their son was being accused of being a bully, were heard to say that this was all because their son is “popular.” When your child is bullied, and school officials know about it but don’t notify you, what is a father to do? Ed felt that the school officials weren’t taking the aggression toward his son seriously. As taken from violencepreventionworks.org, when schools don’t take action against bullies, the entire climate of the school can be affected. An environment of fear and disrespect develops. Students can begin to dislike school. School administrators who take the stance of “looking the other way” or “letting bullies off the hook” can leave students feeling insecure. All can adversely impact learning. When action isn’t taken at our schools to address bullying, the students can begin to feel that their teachers and school principal don’t care about them as individuals. That, or they can be seen as ineffective in controlling the student population. Eventually, school officials will be called to task and the community as a whole may get involved. Parents, like Ed, won’t stand

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If You’ve Fallen Out Of Love, Here’s How To Win Your Love Back

If You've Fallen Out Of Love, Here's How To Win Your Love Back

When the first blush of romance hits, it’s like you’re walking through life with your feet floating above ground. You glide through your days and nights, barely noticing what’s happening around you. All you feel is your new love, and life is perfect! Your friends see the change in you. They notice the doe-eyed, far-off look, or the giddy laughter when you talk about your new flame. Chances are, your besties will know that you’ve fallen in love before you do! Ahhhhh! Falling is love is such a sweet thing. We all hope those moments of bliss will last forever. But, they will not. While new love can turn into a steady-as-she-goes love that you can depend on, if your relationship has taken a turn from bliss to blistering, it’s time to work at winning your love back. Is this a love you want back First, determine what has happened in your relationship to disconnect you from each other. Familiarity, inattention, busy careers, differing interests, and parenting responsibilities can chip away at your love. Those you can deal with. However, the really tough stuff of infidelity, abuse, addictions and lies can set your relationship on a course of self-destruction. Whatever has caused your relationship to drift apart, before you can commit to bringing it back together, you need to make sure that’s what you want to, and need to do. If the distance in your relationship has been brought on by hurtful destructive patterns, you need to take a serious look at whether or not this relationship is good for you. If your relationship is all shades of dysfunctional, beware. Instead of trying to rekindle your love, yours is the type of relationship that needs a massive overhaul, or maybe even a permanent disconnect, because love isn’t supposed to hurt.

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Overcoming Procrastination; Unethical Employers; Trust Fund Kids

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/2.7.15/2.7.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: 1. Overcoming Procrastination @ 0:00 2. Tips For Tackling Procrastination @ 5:12 3. Don’t Let Others Dictate Career @ 24:00 4. Anti-procrastination Strategies @ 43:28 5. Unethical Employer @ 44:57 6. Document Problems at Work @ 1:03:07 7. Trust Fund Bartender @ 1:05:10 8. Confessions of a Trust Fund Kid @ 1:25:04 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Incest; Ineffective vs. Effective Parenting; Social Drinker vs. Alcoholic; 10 Reasons for Divorce

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/1.10.15/1.10.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Incest @ 0:00 Raped by Older Brother, Part 1 @ 6:31 Left Home at 16, Issues with Mother, Part 2 @ 21:35 Ineffective vs. Effective Parenting @ 41:13 Problem Drinking @ 45:02 Social Drinker vs. Alcoholic? @ 1:02:07 Divorcing Husband @ 1:05:13 Top 10 Reasons for Divorce @ 1:21:36 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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New Start to New Year, Resolutions That Stick; Dating a Widower; Relationship Rebound

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/1.3.15/1.3.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments:  Issues With Dating a Widow or Widower @ 0:00 Broke Her Engagement to Widower @ 8:41 Scared of Relationship Rebound @ 28:20 Signs You’re in a Rebound Relationship @ 41:45 Get a New Start in the New Year @ 45:01 Leaving Home for the First Time @ 48:35 Following her Dream @ 1:06:43 Make Your News Years Resolutions Stick @ 1:27:52 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Petulant Princess Wife?

Petulant Princess Wife?

I have 2 months to prepare for a culinary exhibition at a prestigious school. I work at a popular restaurant that keeps me on my toes and a wife who does as well. My wife doesn’t work but stays home with our dogs. I’m fine with it except she is always making demands. This week she wants to re-arrange all our furniture. Last week she wanted to organize the garage. The problem is she usually gets halfway through the job and quits. She then expects me to finish even though I’m stretched very thin with the restaurant. I realize she’s bored, but I can’t be adding projects to my list this close to the exhibition. Every time I tell her how busy I am she gets defensive and acts like I don’t love her. I absolutely cannot cancel the exhibition. How do I keep my wife off my case? My, my, my, aren’t you married to a petulant princess?! It’s time for your wife to grow up. When she starts a job, it’s her responsibility, not yours, to finish it. Let her get defensive. Turn a deaf ear to her “you don’t love me” antics. Don’t allow her defensiveness to manipulate you in to doing things you don’t have time for. Don’t let her steer you off course from your career. Her boredom is not your responsibility. A mature married woman would be thankful that you are working hard to support the family, her and the dogs, without expecting her to work outside the home. A mature married woman would show you support instead of placing demands on you during this busy time in your career. I will say it again…your wife needs to grow up! Show her this blog and if she figures out that this question was written

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5 Decisions As Vagabond Uncle Visits For Holiday?

5 Decisions As Vagabond Uncle Visits For Holiday?

Not long ago I received word from my Uncle who’s been living in Hong Kong. He wanted to let me know that he was planning a trip through America this holiday season to visit our family. He’s always lived an alternative vagabond type lifestyle. I had been talking with him through email but now I regret telling him where I live. I just know he’s going to want to crash on my couch for a good amount of time. I don’t want him to. I love my uncle, but I never see him. He’s also been known to have some odd characters with him. He’s quite a character himself and I love hearing his crazy travel stories. I would really like to see him, just not have him staying here. There’s another problem. I just started dating this girl and she would be really weirded out with my Uncle on the couch in my small apartment. I’m afraid he will be hurt if I tell him to find a hotel. What should I do? This is a good time to practice being assertive and to practice some decision-making. Decision #1: Do you want him staying at your apartment? If you’re ok with your world traveler, vagabond uncle skeezing up your place for a few nights, you can quit reading now. You don’t have any further decisions to make. But, from what you wrote, it sounds as if you don’t want your Uncle staying even one night in your apartment. If you don’t want him camping out at your place, you will have to be prepared to hold fast to that decision. If he’s known for crashing on couches across the country and mooching off his hosts, prepare yourself for some crazy antics that may net him a few nights of

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Troubled Teen Needs Father Figure?

Troubled Teen Needs Father Figure?

I cannot get my teenage son under control! He’s always getting in trouble in school, hangs out with the wrong crowd, and will not listen to me. 2 years ago his father and I divorced in an ugly situation where his Dad was caught having an affair. His Dad rarely calls and I feel so bad for my son and his younger brother. I feel like he could use a good male role model but my family lives many hours away. What can I do to make his situation better? A pet peeve of mine is Dads who abandon their children, or take little interest in them, after a divorce. Your sons still need their Dad, but he is taking the self-centered, easy way out by rarely connecting with his sons. The most frequent excuse I hear Dad’s make is how their ex-wife is making it difficult to see the children, or how she has turned the kids against him. Whether that is true or not, children still need their fathers, and the Dads I admire will fight for their time with their kids after a Divorce. Enough of my judgmental ranting! A way to bring a male role model to your son would be to involve him in extracurricular school activities. Besides sports, there is music, theatre, debate, forensics, and many other clubs that your son could get involved in. Male coaches and teachers are real heroes in my eyes in that many of them take lost boys, such as your son, and provide that positive male role model you’re looking for. A side benefit of getting him involved in outside activities that he likes would be that it could introduce him to a different set of friends. He may find a new crowd to hang out with. Not

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Young Mother of Three Overwhelmed?

Young Mother of Three Overwhelmed?

My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have 3 kids aged 4, 2, and a new baby. I have been at my career job for 10 years. I have always tried to help with housework as much as possible. Lately, my wife has been feeling overwhelmed with taking care of the kids and keeping up the house. She’s starting to take it out on me and saying personal attacks towards me. These attacks are very hurtful. I’m worried things could fall apart soon with our marriage. What should I do? Wow! Sounds like your wife could use some help, or at the very least a Mom’s day out! Seriously, your question could be pointing to the tip of the iceberg. With a new baby, the change in your wife could point to postpartum depression, a condition where you must report this change to her Doctor. The personal attacks you speak of could be coming from her fatigue and feeling overwhelmed, or it can be more serious. Let her Doctor help you keep an eye on this probability because a postpartum depression can put both your wife and children at risk. Regardless, your wife does need more help. While you are doing all you can, you may need to look at bringing in outside help for a period of time. Maybe there’s a family member who can help her out, or someone from your church. You can always look to hire a temporary housekeeper or childcare help. Maybe there’s a preschool you can send your oldest to that will give your wife a break. Two are easier to care for than three. Also, help your wife sort through the tasks that are absolutely necessary from those household duties that are not. Let her know that it’s

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Impatience, Learn to be more Patient; Judgment; Discernment

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/12.6.14/12.6.14Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Judgmental Attitudes @ 0:00 Judging the Homeless? @ 5:38 Concern or Judgment over Parenting Skills @ 26:19 Discernment versus Judgment @ 43:08 Addressing Impatient Attitudes @ 44:55 Benefits of Patience @ 1:02:20 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center     The Joan Jerkovich Show   News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am CST   Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions   Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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