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Overcoming Procrastination; Unethical Employers; Trust Fund Kids

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/2.7.15/2.7.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: 1. Overcoming Procrastination @ 0:00 2. Tips For Tackling Procrastination @ 5:12 3. Don’t Let Others Dictate Career @ 24:00 4. Anti-procrastination Strategies @ 43:28 5. Unethical Employer @ 44:57 6. Document Problems at Work @ 1:03:07 7. Trust Fund Bartender @ 1:05:10 8. Confessions of a Trust Fund Kid @ 1:25:04 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Incest; Ineffective vs. Effective Parenting; Social Drinker vs. Alcoholic; 10 Reasons for Divorce

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/1.10.15/1.10.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Incest @ 0:00 Raped by Older Brother, Part 1 @ 6:31 Left Home at 16, Issues with Mother, Part 2 @ 21:35 Ineffective vs. Effective Parenting @ 41:13 Problem Drinking @ 45:02 Social Drinker vs. Alcoholic? @ 1:02:07 Divorcing Husband @ 1:05:13 Top 10 Reasons for Divorce @ 1:21:36 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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New Start to New Year, Resolutions That Stick; Dating a Widower; Relationship Rebound

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/1.3.15/1.3.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments:  Issues With Dating a Widow or Widower @ 0:00 Broke Her Engagement to Widower @ 8:41 Scared of Relationship Rebound @ 28:20 Signs You’re in a Rebound Relationship @ 41:45 Get a New Start in the New Year @ 45:01 Leaving Home for the First Time @ 48:35 Following her Dream @ 1:06:43 Make Your News Years Resolutions Stick @ 1:27:52 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Petulant Princess Wife?

Petulant Princess Wife?

I have 2 months to prepare for a culinary exhibition at a prestigious school. I work at a popular restaurant that keeps me on my toes and a wife who does as well. My wife doesn’t work but stays home with our dogs. I’m fine with it except she is always making demands. This week she wants to re-arrange all our furniture. Last week she wanted to organize the garage. The problem is she usually gets halfway through the job and quits. She then expects me to finish even though I’m stretched very thin with the restaurant. I realize she’s bored, but I can’t be adding projects to my list this close to the exhibition. Every time I tell her how busy I am she gets defensive and acts like I don’t love her. I absolutely cannot cancel the exhibition. How do I keep my wife off my case? My, my, my, aren’t you married to a petulant princess?! It’s time for your wife to grow up. When she starts a job, it’s her responsibility, not yours, to finish it. Let her get defensive. Turn a deaf ear to her “you don’t love me” antics. Don’t allow her defensiveness to manipulate you in to doing things you don’t have time for. Don’t let her steer you off course from your career. Her boredom is not your responsibility. A mature married woman would be thankful that you are working hard to support the family, her and the dogs, without expecting her to work outside the home. A mature married woman would show you support instead of placing demands on you during this busy time in your career. I will say it again…your wife needs to grow up! Show her this blog and if she figures out that this question was written

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5 Decisions As Vagabond Uncle Visits For Holiday?

5 Decisions As Vagabond Uncle Visits For Holiday?

Not long ago I received word from my Uncle who’s been living in Hong Kong. He wanted to let me know that he was planning a trip through America this holiday season to visit our family. He’s always lived an alternative vagabond type lifestyle. I had been talking with him through email but now I regret telling him where I live. I just know he’s going to want to crash on my couch for a good amount of time. I don’t want him to. I love my uncle, but I never see him. He’s also been known to have some odd characters with him. He’s quite a character himself and I love hearing his crazy travel stories. I would really like to see him, just not have him staying here. There’s another problem. I just started dating this girl and she would be really weirded out with my Uncle on the couch in my small apartment. I’m afraid he will be hurt if I tell him to find a hotel. What should I do? This is a good time to practice being assertive and to practice some decision-making. Decision #1: Do you want him staying at your apartment? If you’re ok with your world traveler, vagabond uncle skeezing up your place for a few nights, you can quit reading now. You don’t have any further decisions to make. But, from what you wrote, it sounds as if you don’t want your Uncle staying even one night in your apartment. If you don’t want him camping out at your place, you will have to be prepared to hold fast to that decision. If he’s known for crashing on couches across the country and mooching off his hosts, prepare yourself for some crazy antics that may net him a few nights of

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Troubled Teen Needs Father Figure?

Troubled Teen Needs Father Figure?

I cannot get my teenage son under control! He’s always getting in trouble in school, hangs out with the wrong crowd, and will not listen to me. 2 years ago his father and I divorced in an ugly situation where his Dad was caught having an affair. His Dad rarely calls and I feel so bad for my son and his younger brother. I feel like he could use a good male role model but my family lives many hours away. What can I do to make his situation better? A pet peeve of mine is Dads who abandon their children, or take little interest in them, after a divorce. Your sons still need their Dad, but he is taking the self-centered, easy way out by rarely connecting with his sons. The most frequent excuse I hear Dad’s make is how their ex-wife is making it difficult to see the children, or how she has turned the kids against him. Whether that is true or not, children still need their fathers, and the Dads I admire will fight for their time with their kids after a Divorce. Enough of my judgmental ranting! A way to bring a male role model to your son would be to involve him in extracurricular school activities. Besides sports, there is music, theatre, debate, forensics, and many other clubs that your son could get involved in. Male coaches and teachers are real heroes in my eyes in that many of them take lost boys, such as your son, and provide that positive male role model you’re looking for. A side benefit of getting him involved in outside activities that he likes would be that it could introduce him to a different set of friends. He may find a new crowd to hang out with. Not

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Young Mother of Three Overwhelmed?

Young Mother of Three Overwhelmed?

My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have 3 kids aged 4, 2, and a new baby. I have been at my career job for 10 years. I have always tried to help with housework as much as possible. Lately, my wife has been feeling overwhelmed with taking care of the kids and keeping up the house. She’s starting to take it out on me and saying personal attacks towards me. These attacks are very hurtful. I’m worried things could fall apart soon with our marriage. What should I do? Wow! Sounds like your wife could use some help, or at the very least a Mom’s day out! Seriously, your question could be pointing to the tip of the iceberg. With a new baby, the change in your wife could point to postpartum depression, a condition where you must report this change to her Doctor. The personal attacks you speak of could be coming from her fatigue and feeling overwhelmed, or it can be more serious. Let her Doctor help you keep an eye on this probability because a postpartum depression can put both your wife and children at risk. Regardless, your wife does need more help. While you are doing all you can, you may need to look at bringing in outside help for a period of time. Maybe there’s a family member who can help her out, or someone from your church. You can always look to hire a temporary housekeeper or childcare help. Maybe there’s a preschool you can send your oldest to that will give your wife a break. Two are easier to care for than three. Also, help your wife sort through the tasks that are absolutely necessary from those household duties that are not. Let her know that it’s

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Impatience, Learn to be more Patient; Judgment; Discernment

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/12.6.14/12.6.14Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Judgmental Attitudes @ 0:00 Judging the Homeless? @ 5:38 Concern or Judgment over Parenting Skills @ 26:19 Discernment versus Judgment @ 43:08 Addressing Impatient Attitudes @ 44:55 Benefits of Patience @ 1:02:20 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center     The Joan Jerkovich Show   News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am CST   Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions   Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Afraid to Start New Empty Nest Hobby?

Afraid to Start New Empty Nest Hobby?

I really want to learn to play the piano but I feel so overwhelmed. I’m middle aged and I’ve always heard, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”. I’ve wanted to play since I was a boy but life happened. I got my wife pregnant in high school and we married and I started working the family business. Now that my 3 kids are off to college I feel like I finally have the time. My problem is just finding the courage to start something new. What would help me boost my confidence? You’re finding yourself in a situation many parents encounter once their children go off to college. Those last years of high school, especially the senior year, are intensely time consuming for parents. If your children are involved in any outside activities that you plan to attend, your time is not your own. Then, especially after the last child leaves, there is a hole in your life. Your home feels empty and vacant. It is a time of sadness but it can also be a time in which you can discover new things. You can now focus on the things you’ve always wanted to do, but set aside for your family, such as learning to play the piano. We’ve all heard that saying, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”, but I call that saying poppy-cock! I give that saying a bullshit rating. When we look at the celebrities in their 70’s and 80’s who regularly post of twitter, we know that there’s no age limit to the ability to learn. Heck, my mother who’s in her 80’s, has an iPad! It’s taken her a while to catch on, but I love her enthusiasm for learning something new! I think we need to look to the

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Drinking Dinner Guests Get Silly and Boring?

Drinking Dinner Guests Get Silly and Boring?

Whenever my husband and I have guests over for dinner, the party enjoys several glasses of wine. I, however, don’t drink and it’s common knowledge. As the evening wears on my husband and our guests become more and more animated and silly. To be honest, I begin to get very bored with the conversation and antics by the second hour. Our friends are such interesting people when they’re not drinking and I really wish they could just hold off for a night. The problem is my husband is usually the instigator of the partying. How can I tell him that these dinner parties are boring for me without ruining everyone else’s fun? So, you have to put up with a little boredom and silly, tipsy, antics for an evening? Is it worth it to keep these interesting friends in your life? Is your husband, whom you call “the instigator”, your bigger problem? When you have guests over for dinner, as the host, you get to call the shots. You get to decide how much alcohol you will, or will not, serve. Do you offer plenty of non-alcoholic options? If so, many social drinkers will mix a non-alcoholic drink in with their glass of wine. Or, would you rather have a non-drinking dinner party? The choice is yours. While your friends may prefer to have wine with their dinner, I’m sure that if the food and conversation are good they will still attend your dinner parties if alcohol is not served. It seems that your bigger issue is with your husband. Why are you afraid to talk to him about this? If he wants to serve alcohol, is there a middle ground where the two of you can find a compromise? Can you only serve wine with the meal? Can you

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