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Drinking Dinner Guests Get Silly and Boring?

Drinking Dinner Guests Get Silly and Boring?

Whenever my husband and I have guests over for dinner, the party enjoys several glasses of wine. I, however, don’t drink and it’s common knowledge. As the evening wears on my husband and our guests become more and more animated and silly. To be honest, I begin to get very bored with the conversation and antics by the second hour. Our friends are such interesting people when they’re not drinking and I really wish they could just hold off for a night. The problem is my husband is usually the instigator of the partying. How can I tell him that these dinner parties are boring for me without ruining everyone else’s fun? So, you have to put up with a little boredom and silly, tipsy, antics for an evening? Is it worth it to keep these interesting friends in your life? Is your husband, whom you call “the instigator”, your bigger problem? When you have guests over for dinner, as the host, you get to call the shots. You get to decide how much alcohol you will, or will not, serve. Do you offer plenty of non-alcoholic options? If so, many social drinkers will mix a non-alcoholic drink in with their glass of wine. Or, would you rather have a non-drinking dinner party? The choice is yours. While your friends may prefer to have wine with their dinner, I’m sure that if the food and conversation are good they will still attend your dinner parties if alcohol is not served. It seems that your bigger issue is with your husband. Why are you afraid to talk to him about this? If he wants to serve alcohol, is there a middle ground where the two of you can find a compromise? Can you only serve wine with the meal? Can you

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Brother Murdered; Grieving; Perseverance; Life Balance; Intuition

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/11.22.14/11.22.14Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Music for Inner Centeredness, Life Balance @ 0:00 Use your Intuition @ 17:55 Success After Foster Child @ 20:06 Perseverance @ 35:38 Homicide in Families @ 45:07 Grieving Brothers Death @ 52:02 Brother Murdered @ 1:07:01 Grieve Your Own Way @ 1:24:57 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center     The Joan Jerkovich Show   News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am CST   Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions   Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Family Reject Vegan-only Thanksgiving Dinner?

Family Reject Vegan-only Thanksgiving Dinner?

Thanksgiving is approaching and I’ve been trying to lose weight the past 6 months. I’ve gone vegan during that time and I’ve been pretty successful! Every year, our family always has the biggest dinner celebrations. This year dinner will be at my house and I would like to make a vegan feast for everyone. I’ve been researching some great vegan recipes and I think they will be pleasantly surprised at how good vegan cooking can be. We usually send out an RSVP invitation through email to everyone. I want to tell them not to bring meat or animal products of any kind because of my newfound dietary exploration. The thing is, no one but my Mother knows about my diet. My Mom is known for having a big mouth and will inevitably spill the beans on the “surprise” dinner. How can I make sure that I’m not the only one at the table for Thanksgiving dinner? When in Rome…do as the Romans do. When invited to a vegan feast…eat vegan! Pull on your big girl panties (or big boy tidy whities) and send out the invite telling your family not to bring the flesh of the beast, or beastly products of any kind, to your dinner. You’re the host! You can make this party your own and serve vegan. Who knows? You may turn some of your family into converts? At the very least, you will be introducing them to a new way of thinking about food, and you may turn them on to some tasty dishes to boot! Years ago, I went with a friend to a yoga retreat in the mountains. She forewarned me that the only food they served was vegetarian. I was up for it, even though I thought I would miss my staple meat products.

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A Family Member Murder

A Family Member Murder

We see it in the news daily. Stories of violent killings in our communities, in our nation, and on the world stage. While the media focuses most of their attention on the victims and the perpetrators, the families who suffer the loss of one of their beloved family members often go unnoticed. Murder is violent and it is unexpected. It is shocking and brutal. There is no way for a family member to anticipate this trauma, and just by the nature of the crime, it makes grieving as a family much more difficult. Each member of the family will react in their own way to the murder. Once the initial shock is over, some may try to quickly move on with their lives, others will harbor intense feelings of anger and seek ways to avenge the death. There are those who will suffer with feelings of guilt, feeling that there should have been a way for them to prevent the murder. There can be anger toward the victim for having put themselves in the wrong place at the wrong time, or to involve themselves with these types of dangerous people who live in a culture of violence. There are the family members who refuse to leave any stone unturned, especially if the murderer remains at large. They will work closely with law enforcement and some even turn to psychics to try and find the killer. Others will try to find meaning in the tragedy by becoming an activist for change. With all the different ways that family members react, it can cause an emotional divide within. Differences of opinion on how to keep moving through this trauma can distance family members from each other. This, at a time, when they need each other most. When a member of the family

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Grandkids Stealing from Grandmother?

Grandkids Stealing from Grandmother?

I’m a senior woman living alone in the home I’ve been in for 40 years. My husband passed away years ago and I have my grandkids stop by periodically to help out around the house. Lately, I’ve suspected one of them has been taking money out of my wallet. I know my memory isn’t what it used to be, but I just have a feeling I’m missing some of the spare cash I keep around. It isn’t much money, and I love all my grandchildren so much for helping me. I’m not even sure which one would be taking the money and I definitely don’t want to pit them against each other. Should I just stop worrying about it? Stealing from a family member does happen in even the best of families. It usually happens during the adolescent or teen years, but can be a problem with adult family members as well. The reasons for stealing from family can be many. They might rationalize that they were just borrowing something and plan to give it back, even though they never seem to get around to returning the items or cash. Or, they may act on feelings of entitlement wherein they think you owe it to them. Low self-esteem might drive them to steal, or it can be an expression of anger or aggression toward the person they are stealing from. Other reasons can run deeper such as a personality disorder or drug addiction. In time, it may become evident that the thief is the proverbial “bad seed” in the family that will always skirt the borders of legal versus criminal. There are many reasons why a family member will steal from one of their own, but taking another persons property without their permission is never acceptable behavior. You ask if

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Heroin Addiction; Family History and Genetics of Addiction; Sobriety

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/11.15.14/11.15.14Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Family History and Genetics of Addiction @ 0:00 Addicted to Cigarettes @ 4:18 Sober One Year, Now What? @ 23:05 The Newly Sober Person @ 41:17 Heroin Addict Caller @ 45:07 Signs of Heroin Abuse, Treatment @ 1:00:27 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center     The Joan Jerkovich Show   News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am CST   Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions   Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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A Talk While High on Heroin

A Talk While High on Heroin

She wasn’t making sense and her words were slurred and garbled. After she talked about her trouble with drug abuse, I asked her if she was high. She was. On heroin. Heroin is the most abused, fast acting and popular of all opiate drugs. Almost immediately upon using heroin, users experience euphoria, warm flushing of the skin, dry mouth, heaviness in the arms and legs, and poor cognition. Cara exhibited poor cognition when she wasn’t really tracking with our conversation. It was disjointed and, to be honest, I almost hung up on her. It was frustrating trying to talk to her. Yes, I was trying to talk to someone in the throes of a heroin high. Other signs of heroin and opiate abuse include: • Shortness of breath • Disorientation • Sudden changes in behavior or actions • Cycles of hyper alertness followed by suddenly nodding off • Droopy appearance, as if extremities are heavy • Constricted (small) pupils Opiate abusers, even those pill poppers who abuse Oxycontin, Vicodin, Lortab and that class of medications, may initially be able to hide their drug abuse, but one sign they cannot hide is the constricted pupils. If you suspect an opiate addiction, one sure sign is if you see that their pupils are small, even in dim light, where the pupils in your eyes would normally open wider. Behavioral signs of heroin and opiate abuse include: • Lying or other deceptive behavior • Avoiding eye contact • Sleeping more • Poor hygiene • Slurred, garbled, incoherent speech • Apathy, lack of motivation • Stealing or borrowing money • Hostile toward loved ones • Withdrawal from family and friends While the above signs can apply to all opiate addictions, those specific to heroin abuse include possession of drug paraphernalia such as needles, syringes,

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Mom Helping Brother But Not You?

Mom Helping Brother But Not You?

My brother has lived with my Mom since college and he is now 45 years old. She does almost everything for him as he can barely hold down a job. I am recently divorced and am now a single father who’s living paycheck to paycheck. Sometimes I could really use my Mom’s help but I feel like she always puts my older brother’s needs ahead of mine or my kid. Anytime I bring up my loser brother and how I wish she could help my son and I more, she cries and the conversation goes nowhere. How can I approach her without it becoming an emotional landmine? There seems to be more going on here than meets the eye. Does your brother have mental health issues? Why can’t he hold down a job? Why has he failed to let loose from his dependence on his mother? What draws your mother to doing so much for her adult child? Are there issues with her mental health that she is so fragile that just talking to her about this drives her to tears? Does she get teary when your “loser” brother asks her for help, or just you? Those are a lot of questions that, frankly, don’t need to be answered for you to find a way to convince your mother to lend you a helping hand. The reason I say they don’t need to be answered is because I believe this arrangement your brother and mother have is not ever going to change. Let’s talk about how you might work around it. If your mother starts to cry when you bring up your loser brother and how you wish she would help you more, her tears may be tears of guilt or shame or sadness or embarrassment. She has to know

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Marriage of 30 Years and No Sex?

Marriage of 30 Years and No Sex?

29 yrs. ago after our 1st child my husband did not have sex with me until 5 months after her birth. Since then only on vacations 3 to 4 times a year. This drove me to a very deep depression & I gained 80 pounds. Now, I have learned to turn off my sex drive and I no longer find him attractive, which is something new. But, it helps me take control of my feelings. No more crying. Now, everyone is telling him he had better fix his marriage, and all of a sudden after 30 yrs. he wants to sit down and talk about things. Can I put a hidden microphone on you and listen in? I’d love to hear what your husband has to say! It would be interesting to hear the tale of 30 years of no sex! What are his reasons? Excuses? How does that happen? Is he depressed, asexual or gay? Is this a result of prescription drug use, or illicit drug abuse? Where’s Sherlock Holmes when we need him? All silliness aside, this is a very distressing thing for you to have lived with (or should I say, lived without) for all these years. Women I’ve talked to whose husbands don’t want to have sex with them talk about how this makes them feel like there’s something wrong with them. It makes them question their femininity and attractiveness. It’s a real head-trip and I’m not surprised at all to hear this drove you to a depression. After all, I’m guessing that you didn’t sign on for this when you signed your marriage certificate. You were expecting, as were the men who have wives who won’t have sex with them, carnal delights more than 3-4 times per year. For your information, a marriage with sex

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Sociopathy in Children: Signs, Causes, Treatment; Growing Party Planner, Real Estate Business

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/11.8.14/11.8.14Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSPodcast Segments: The Biology of Sociopathy @ 0:00 Party Planner Business @ 4:11 Grow Real Estate Business @ 21:08 Signs of Childhood Sociopathy @ 43:43 Adopted a Sociopathic Child @ 45:56 Causes and Treatment for Childhood Sociopathy @ 1:01:42 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center     The Joan Jerkovich Show   News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am CST   Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions   Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!  

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