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OK, I admit that it may be an exaggeration to say that if you are a permissive parent you are hurting your children, but there are problems associated with being the parent who doesn’t discipline and doesn’t set limits or consequences. This weekend on “The Joan Jerkovich Show” listen for “Over-Parenting? Teach Your Child Independence”, “Surviving Abusive Parents,” and “Embarrassed By Helicopter Parents.” Empowering talk radio from your Life Coach! Following are 9 problem areas that can crop up when “Permissive Parents” don’t set limits. See if you can identify your parenting style with any of them. 1. Permissive parents let the children dictate the rules. Seriously, the child does not need to see the R-rated movie when they’re only 14; or they don’t need to stay up late on a school night; or they don’t need a curfew later than is age appropriate. These can be harmful to a child who needs help with setting limits. 2. Permissive parents feel the rights of children trump the rights of adults. You’ve seen me blog on this. These are the kids whose parents let them run all around in the nice restaurant because they haven’t been taught good behavior. This, in my opinion, is where the parents (not the children) need a consequence. Can we send our dinner tab to their table since their rowdy children disrupted our dinner out? 3. Permissive parents are overprotective. If mom and dad overprotect their child from the inevitable life lessons that sadness and disappointment bring, then a child begins to fear failure. They might avoid taking risks because they don’t believe they can emotionally handle a possible poor outcome. 4. Permissive parents don’t encourage self-denial. I equate self-denial to self-discipline. Think of how a lack of self-discipline can set a child up for failure.