http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/1.16.16/1.16.16Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Passive Aggressive Behaviors; Why They Act This Way @ 0:00 An Abusive Marriage, Part 1 @ 4:27 An Abusive Marriage, Part 2 @ 22:50 How To Deal With A Passive Aggressive Spouse @ 42:48 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!
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My ex husband and I have tried to make our relationship work, moving in and out with each other about four times since our divorce 15 years ago. We finally bought a condo last year together, one year ago, and we still fight. Our fights are now upsetting our 8-year-old granddaughter. It’s such a long story, and there are a lot more details, but I would really appreciate help because I’m wanting to give up again to save my kids broken hearts. I read and re-read your question, as I know this is serious business for you. Especially since I can see how hard you have fought to make your relationship with your Ex work! Now, you seem to be asking for an opinion on whether or not you should move out of the condo you share with your Ex, since your fighting is affecting your granddaughter. In my humble opinion, stated in one word, that word is “Yes”. …And I will take my opinion one step further and tell you that I feel you should not only move out, but you should begin to build a life for yourself that no longer involves trying to live with your Ex. You and your Ex can still be friendly. You can be social companions who go places together. You can even attend family events together. But, living together seems to set both of you up for fight mode. Work toward carving out a new type of relationship with your Ex. One that involves spending only a tolerable amount of time together, where you can both maintain civility. After all these years of trying to get along, I’m guessing you both know what triggers your fights. Avoid those situations. If you find yourselves starting to bicker and fight, go your separate ways.
Read more →I’m so different from my brother. I’ve always been the one who believed in working hard to take care of myself and my family, but my brother comes around mooching off others, especially Mom and Dad, every chance he gets. He works just enough to barely get by. I’ve tried talking to our parents about how they’re not really helping him when they listen to his hard luck stories and hand over cash or groceries or loan him their car because his is broken down. How do I deal with the resentment I feel toward him and also toward my parents for giving in to him? Any situation where you have no choice but to accept the behavior of others, especially when their behavior does not align with your personal values, is incredibly vexing. You value hard work and value making your own way. Your brother doesn’t seem to have a problem accepting help from others. In his own mind, he probably doesn’t see himself as a mooch. Your parents may be giving in where you think tough love is in order. Such is the fodder of life challenges that make us grow in character. Every year that goes by, I realize more and more that I have no, nada, zero control over the actions of others. Thankfully, each year that goes by, I learn better ways of coping with resentments of the type you mentioned, and here are my TOP 3 METHODS FOR COPING: First, realize that you cannot control anyone else, you can only control yourself. To help you do this, make a list of what you can do to set up your own personal boundaries with regards to this situation and implement your top three. Keep them respectful and considerate, but use these as your personal guidelines
Read more →http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/9.12.15/9.12.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Forgiveness, What It Is And Is Not @ 0:00 Forgiving Parent Abuse, Part 1 @ 5:48 Forgiving Parent Abuse, Part 2 @ 23:36 Why It’s Hard To Forgive @ 42:45 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!
Read more →Parents who have substance abuse problems, mental health issues, or are verbally, physically, or sexually abusive affect their children for life. For information on how children are affected when abusive, dysfunctional parents raise them, listen to: “The Joan Jerkovich Show” podcast: Abusive Dysfunctional Parents This weekend on “The Joan Jerkovich Show”, my caller talks about FORGIVING HER PARENTS FOR CHILDHOOD ABUSE. She has forgiven her Father for his abuse, but she’s struggling to forgive her mother for not protecting her. Listen as “Your Life Coach” brings you “Empowering Talk Radio”! The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!
Read more →My husband has recently gotten his addiction to alcohol and pills under control. He’s following his recovery program but I feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He has all this support but I need support too. Any help? You do need support, and you deserve support. When you are in a relationship with an addict your life can feel like it’s not your own. An addiction can pervade every area of your life and your relationship. Just because your husband is newly sober or in recovery, all the problems his addiction created don’t magically go away. Darn. Wish they did? While I’m sure you’re happy that he has started down the road to recovery, do you feel like you’re expected to throw up a resounding cheer of praise while showering him with an “atta boy” or “good for you”, even though you resent that he took you down the road of addiction to begin with? Do you harbor resentment over what his addiction did to your relationship and family? Has he come around to being a true partner now that the drugs and alcohol are under control, or are you still the one holding things together? Has his recovery taken away all of his character flaws, such as lying? One opinion I have about addicts is that when you live with an addict, you live a life of lies. Lying about their drug use is part and parcel to their denial of how bad their addiction is. They lie to you and they lie to themselves. This is tough stuff. For help, cultivate your own support systems. Find a support group, supportive friends, counselor or pastor who will help you through this new way of sober living. Take care of your needs while you support your husband with
Read more →http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/7.18.15/7.18.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Money Issues That Plague A Marriage @ 0:00 Get Then Keep A Relationship @ 5:18 Married 7 Years, Fight Over Money @ 23:41 Solutions to Marital, Couples’ Money Issues @ 42:40 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!
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