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Porn Addiction; Avoiding Women; Leave Your Toxic Job

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/7.5.14/7.5.14Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Excuses Used to Avoid Women @ 0:00 Addicted to Porn @ 8:23 Using Porn to Avoid Girls @ 26:32 Porn Stats @ 43:56 Clues You’re in Toxic Job @ 45:02 Leave Toxic Job, Part 1 @ 50:17 Leave Toxic Job, Part 2 @ 1:09:45 What’s New with The Joan Jerkovich Show! @ 1:28:11 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center     The Joan Jerkovich Show   News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am CST   Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions   Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!  

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Passive-Aggressive Tactics are Cowardly, Lily-livered and Chicken-hearted

Passive-Aggressive Tactics are Cowardly, Lily-livered and Chicken-hearted

If you ever find yourself on the receiving end of a passive-aggressive attack, it may leave you scratching your head wondering if the attack was intentional, or a reasonable mistake. Maybe they just haven’t gotten around to responding to your email? Or they forgot? Or their comment to you wasn’t meant to be cutting and critical, it was just a poor choice of words where you misperceived what they said. What one sign will point you to the fact that you are dealing with a passive-aggressive person? They repeat this type of behavior. We all step in do-do on occasion. We have all been known to say dumb-shit stuff we regret later. But, the passive-aggressive isn’t making mindless mistakes; their actions are calculated and intentional. The hallmark of a passive-aggressive attack is that it is intentionally indirect and intentionally covertly delivered. It is the cowardly, lily-livered and chicken-hearted way of addressing an issue. This is the attack that sneaks up on you from behind. Yes, it can be shrouded in fancy words or slight-of-hand actions, but it will still hit you hard like a gut punch. But here’s where it gets tricky, because the mask of passive-aggressive has many shapes and colors. Get ready for this parade of go-to-favorites most commonly used by this personality type: procrastination, forgetfulness, rumor mongering, indirect criticism, outright sabotage, silent treatment, intentional obstruction and inefficiency, stubbornness, neglect, victimhood, argumentative, general negativity. Have you heard enough or do you want a scholarly opinion? Author Dr. Sam Vaknin writes that “passive-aggressiveness has a lot in common with pathological narcissism: the destructive envy, the recurrent attempts to buttress grandiose fantasies of omnipotence and omniscience, the lack of impulse control, the deficient ability to empathize, and the sense of entitlement, often incommensurate with its real-life achievements.” So what do

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Failed Relationships?

Failed Relationships?

Why do I have so many failed relationships?* You ask why? Here are some possible reasons, and I’m guessing you will find your answer in more than one of these. Too Hot and Fast. A fire that burns too hot will burn out fast. The same often goes for the romance that runs on speed dial. The foundation of true connection didn’t have time to smolder and lay a base of deep coals to keep the fires burning. Fairy Tales are for Books, Not Relationships. If you start hearing yourself say your new love is perfect, it’s time for your Fairy Godmother to wave her magic wand and wake you up from your dream. We all have our flaws and it’s better to wake up to that fact early in your relationship before you get a dog, house and kid together. Some flaws you can live with, some you can’t. The Mask Comes Off. It takes about six months for a person to let their guard down and take the mask of social charm off. Only then will you see the real person hidden beneath the mask. Then the character flaws and personality quirks show up, and the true nature of your true love makes its appearance. When the mask comes off, put on your reading glasses and take a good hard look at whether or not this relationship it right for you. Ghosts and Goblins. Once you step inside a new relationship, you might find hiding in the closet the ghosts and goblins that will haunt you. These are the ghosts of unresolved emotional baggage such as a traumatic past relationship or traumatic childhood that remains a haunting, slimy mess. Consider this, how many spooks do you have to uncover to run away scared from this relationship? Boo! Lazy

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Friend Brags About Social Invitations?

Friend Brags About Social Invitations?

A friend of mine is a real social bug and gets invited to everything. I’m ok with that except that she always has to talk about all the parties and events she’s been to until it leaves me feeling left out and unpopular. We’re not in high school anymore so why do I care? No one likes to feel left out, but your friends’ behavior does sound juvenile. If she persists in talking about all the fun she’s having where you weren’t invited have you tried changing the subject? Or telling her that you don’t want to hear about her partying? Or minimizing the time you spend with this friend? Most people instinctively take cues from others in conversation, but this person seems to lack basic social awareness. That, or she is so self-absorbed that she always has to be the center of attention. True friends are people we enjoy hanging out with, not those who leave us feeling upset. You ask why you care, yet it seems natural to feel left out when you don’t get invited, no matter your age.  Instead of dwelling on the negative feelings this evokes, try instead being more proactive with making new friends and hosting some of your own get-togethers.  There is such a thing as “taking your turn” when it comes to socializing.  It takes work, preparation and money to host a party.  Maybe taking your turn at host is long overdue? Keep a positive mindset and this awareness may be just the jump-start your social life has been needing! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ What does this friendship mean to you? How does this friendship fulfill you and make you happy? How comfortable are you with your social life? Have you thought that you should expand your circle of

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Work with Ex?

Work with Ex?

My work situation involves being around my ex-boyfriend and working closely with him. We ended on bad terms, and it’s awkward to be around him. How do I relieve that tension? It is reasonable to expect that you won’t relieve the tension. I know that’s not what you wanted to hear, but I’m sure that if I tried to give you some sure-fire way to make these awkward feelings go away you would know, in your psyche, that I was just spouting off some BS! Falling in love is all about opening our hearts to let someone else in. When you do this, you place yourself in a position of being emotionally vulnerable. This vulnerability is the basis for the hurt of a breakup and the tension you now feel post-breakup. The fact that you can work at all with your Ex is a testament to your professionalism. While at work, keep your focus on the task at hand; monitor your thoughts and try to keep them on work and off the relationship muck; don’t let on that being around him bothers you (even if it does). If those things don’t help you can always show him up on the job, outperform him and go for the promotion so you can be his boss and fire his arse! Yeah! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ What works to calm you in tense situations? How can you incorporate your self-calming methods in to your work situation? Do you feel the need to further process the hurt of this broken relationship? What has helped you heal from past broken relationships? What does “accept the things you cannot change” mean to you? Are there things you can do to help accept that healing a broken heart takes time? The Joan Jerkovich Show News

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Pastors Who Lie; Effective Liars; Fear of Failure; Crazy Cool Caller!

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/6.14.14/6.14.14Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Facing Your Fear of Failure @ 0:00 Fear of Failure Impeding Business Success @ 4:22 Crazy Cool Caller! @ 24:00 Overcoming Your Fear of Failure @ 42:40 Secrets of Effective Liars @ 44:50 Consequences of No Follow-through @ 50:32 Pastor Lied-Where Did He Go and with Whom? @ 1:08:15 Top 3 Reasons Pastors Lie @ 1:27:39 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center     The Joan Jerkovich Show   News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am CST   Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions   Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!  

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Husbands Affair Leaves Lasting Health Problem?

Husbands Affair Leaves Lasting Health Problem?

My husband had an affair four years ago. Traumatic to say the least yet, we worked through the betrayal. But, I have a lasting affect that I cannot eliminate. And, I’m reminded daily when I look in the mirror. My husband made the mistake of not protecting himself so got Chlamydia. We took bouts of antibiotics. Unfortunately,this triggered an autoimmune response for me. I lost my hair. It grew back, but only 40%. I look like a cancer patient. It destroyed my self-esteem, my beauty, my ability to be employed. When I send out my resume, I get quick responses because I worked for top tier investment banking firms and for recognized CEO’s and CFO. With every job interview, I’m asked at the end, questions concerning health issues such as, “Do you have any disabilities that would prevent you from doing this job?” They note that I have no eyebrows, that I wear a wig and I’m young. I dropped my salary in half and still cannot get a job. After sixteen interviews, I finally gave up. I know that I will never be able to enter this field again. They believe I’m hiding something that would be a liability for them but I’m not. Now, I’m on a new journey. I decided to reinvent myself. I’m taking classes to become a realtor and in four weeks, I will be taking my State exam. I’m so afraid that I will never be hired by buyers and sellers of homes. I only wish that the world understands that I have much to offer, that being productive defines me and my beauty is within. So, how do I truly forgive when I can’t forget an event that I’m reminded of daily when I look in the mirror? The betrayal of an affair leaves scars. It will always leave

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Binge Eating-Signs and Risk Factors; Dangers of Untreated Depression; Motivation and Square Foot Gardening

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/6.7.14/6.7.14Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Dangers of Untreated Depression @ 0:00 College Student Depressed or Unmotivated? @ 4:19 Motivation and Square Foot Gardening @ 23:39 Insomnia and Substance Abuse with Depression @ 42:52 Binge Eating Signs and Symptoms @ 44:56 Binge Eating Rooted in Childhood Bullying @ 50:30 Binge Eating Underlying Issues @ 1:08:43 Risk Factors of Binge Eating @ 1:27:49 Brought to you by: Hospice of Salina Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Preventive Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Angry Over Dad’s Affair?

Angry Over Dad’s Affair?

I’m in high school and my Mom and Dad got divorced a year ago because my Dad had an affair. I’m so mad at my Dad for doing this to my Mom. Things have been really hard for her. I know I should want to spend time with my Dad but I don’t. We’ve not been close since this all happened and I feel sad and angry that I’ve lost what I used to have with my Dad through all this. I especially have a hard time visiting Dad when his girlfriend is around. They live together so it’s hard to see him and not her but seeing her always reminds me of what they both did to my Mom. Will things ever get better with my Dad and how do I get over being angry with him? Tough stuff, but life does at times hand us challenges that seem almost insurmountable. It is sad that your Dad chose to cheat on your mother. Even though divorce can be hard, it is more so when you have this betrayal to deal with. Three things come to mind as you work to repair the damage that was done to your relationship with your Dad. Acceptance. Forgiveness. Focusing on your life. Acceptance of what is, can often be the hardest thing we have to do. You can’t change what has happened. Life isn’t fair. People don’t always consider how their actions will hurt others. You can’t go back to the way things were when all was good in your family. You have no choice but to accept that your parent’s relationship ended in this difficult way. In moving toward acceptance find things that help you. Is there a saying you can repeat in your head that helps? Does it help to journal

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Family Vacation Tensions?

Family Vacation Tensions?

How do you deal with a family vacation where part of the family want to lie on the beach all day and the other part want to see the sights? …and your problem is?? Yes, this is a family vacation where your expectation may be that you spend time together, but do you feel that you have to spend every second of every day together? I’m sure that this rarely happens in your daily lives back home! You’re on Vaca so try to be flexible, chill, relax, let go, and leave your inner bossy boss at home. Isn’t this why you planned this getaway? Let each individual enjoy their vacation in their own way. We are not cookie cutter people who all want the same thing even when we are genetically related. The adults can split up for part of the day and let the kids choose whom they’d like to do things with. Older kids will be happy to have some of the same freedom away from you that they enjoy at home. Don’t sweat it! You will still be spending most of your time together as a family, and people will be happier when they’re not being pushed to do things they don’t want. Personally, I don’t understand why a college kid would want to sit inside watching sports on TV while in Hawaii…but, we left him behind and had a superb day at the beach boogie boarding, snorkeling and swimming with the endangered sea turtles! He enjoyed his day…and so did we! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ • If you don’t want to split up your family activities for the day, what other options for compromise (such as taking turns deciding what activity you get to do) can you employ to keep the peace on

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