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Is This Angry Boyfriend Dangerous?

Is This Angry Boyfriend Dangerous?

I’ve been dating a guy for about 2 months now, but my best friend hates him. I think he’s cute and funny. He was interested in her at first but she told him “no”. She warned me to stay away from him because of his past. He’s been through rehab recently but keeps telling me that he’s changed. The only bad thing about him is that sometimes he can have a bit of a temper, so I’ve learned some of the things that make him angry and don’t do those things. Yesterday my friend and I got into a bad argument. She said that I’m putting up with too much of his anger and not standing up for myself. “He can just be sensitive since being in rehab and he promises he will never hurt me”, I told her. Since our argument my friend has been checking up on me every day, like I’m a little kid. How can I tell her to let me handle my relationship on my own and still stay friends with her? Do you think your friend might be trying to help you and keep you safe from a potentially abusive man? When I have had a friend say or do something that bothered me, I always try to look at their intent, or rationale, for getting in my business. If I know their heart is in the right place, and that they aren’t coming from a place of meanness or cattiness, I can’t hold their actions against them. We all say and do things that upset others at times. Consider this when you feel upset with your friend for trying to warn you about this man. I side with your friend in trying to warn you that this man who’s so “cute and funny”

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Trust And Communication In Relationship; Girlfriend Contacted Ex; Joan’s #1 Trust Rule; When To Call It Quits

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/11.7.15/11.7.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Trust And Communication In Relationship @ 0:00 Girlfriend Contacted Ex, Part 1 @ 6:36 Mistrusts Girlfriend, Part 2 @ 24:39 Joan’s #1 Trust Rule, When To Call It Quits @ 43:26 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Doormats: 10 Ways To Stand Up For Yourself, #1 Way To Stop Being A Doormat; Helping Women Trapped As Sex Slaves

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/10.3.15/10.3.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: 10 Ways To Stand Up For Yourself @ 0:00 Helping Women Trapped As Sex Slaves @ 5:12 Friends Treat Him Like A Doormat @ 24:42 #1 Way To Stop Being A Doormat @ 42:57 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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The BEST Show On Forgiveness: What It Is And Is Not; Forgiving Parent Abuse; Why It’s Hard To Forgive

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/9.12.15/9.12.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Forgiveness, What It Is And Is Not @ 0:00 Forgiving Parent Abuse, Part 1 @ 5:48 Forgiving Parent Abuse, Part 2 @ 23:36 Why It’s Hard To Forgive @ 42:45 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!    

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Identify And Manage A Passive Aggressive Personality

Identify And Manage A Passive Aggressive Personality

If you ever find yourself on the receiving end of a passive aggressive attack, it may leave you scratching your head wondering if the attack was intentional, or a reasonable mistake. Maybe they just haven’t gotten around to responding to your email? Or they forgot? Or their comment to you wasn’t meant to be cutting and critical, it was just a poor choice of words where you misperceived what they said. What one sign will point you to the fact that you are dealing with a passive aggressive person? They repeat this type of behavior. We all step in do-do on occasion. We have all been known to say dumb-shit stuff we regret later. But, the passive aggressive isn’t making mindless mistakes; their actions are calculated and intentional. The hallmark of a passive aggressive attack is that it is intentionally indirect and intentionally covertly delivered. It is the cowardly, lily-livered and chicken-hearted way of addressing an issue. This is the attack that sneaks up on you from behind. Yes, it can be shrouded in fancy words or slight-of-hand actions, but it will still hit you hard like a gut punch. But here’s where it gets tricky, because the mask of passive aggressive has many shapes and colors. Get ready for this parade of go-to-favorites most commonly used by this personality type: Procrastination Forgetfulness Indirect criticism Outright sabotage Silent treatment Intentional obstruction and inefficiency Stubbornness Neglect Victimhood Argumentative General negativity Have you heard enough? Or do you want a scholarly opinion? Author Dr. Sam Vaknin writes that “passive-aggressiveness has a lot in common with pathological narcissism: the destructive envy, the recurrent attempts to buttress grandiose fantasies of omnipotence and omniscience, the lack of impulse control, the deficient ability to empathize, and the sense of entitlement, often incommensurate with its real-life achievements.”

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Why Friendships Fade; Grieving End Of Childhood Friendship; Tips For Surviving Lost Friendship

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/8.22.15/8.22.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Why Friendships Fade @ 0:00 Grieving End Of Childhood Friendship, Part 1 @ 5:36 Grieving End Of Childhood Friendship, Part 2 @ 23:27 Tips For Surviving Lost Friendship @ 42:48 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Scary, Old-time Addiction Treatments; Why People Get Addicted; Gay Marriage; Transgender Issues

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/8.8.15/8.8.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Creepy, Scary, Old-time Addiction Treatments @ 0:00 Gay Marriage, Transgender Issues @ 8:22 Addiction Treatments Today @ 22:52 Why People Get Addicted @ 43:36 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!  

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Wife Struggles With Husbands Addiction?

Wife Struggles With Husbands Addiction?

My husband has recently gotten his addiction to alcohol and pills under control. He’s following his recovery program but I feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He has all this support but I need support too. Any help? You do need support, and you deserve support. When you are in a relationship with an addict your life can feel like it’s not your own. An addiction can pervade every area of your life and your relationship. Just because your husband is newly sober or in recovery, all the problems his addiction created don’t magically go away. Darn. Wish they did? While I’m sure you’re happy that he has started down the road to recovery, do you feel like you’re expected to throw up a resounding cheer of praise while showering him with an “atta boy” or “good for you”, even though you resent that he took you down the road of addiction to begin with? Do you harbor resentment over what his addiction did to your relationship and family? Has he come around to being a true partner now that the drugs and alcohol are under control, or are you still the one holding things together? Has his recovery taken away all of his character flaws, such as lying? One opinion I have about addicts is that when you live with an addict, you live a life of lies. Lying about their drug use is part and parcel to their denial of how bad their addiction is. They lie to you and they lie to themselves. This is tough stuff. For help, cultivate your own support systems. Find a support group, supportive friends, counselor or pastor who will help you through this new way of sober living. Take care of your needs while you support your husband with

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He Saves-She Spends, Marital Money Issues?

He Saves-She Spends, Marital Money Issues?

The biggest arguments my husband and I have are over spending. I like to spend and he likes to save. I grew up in a family where my Dad spoiled me and I got everything I ever wanted. Sometimes I wish this were not the case because I know this has set me up for the number one stress my marriage of 27 years has had. Will this bickering over spending ever get resolved? Maybe before we hit our 50th anniversary? You may think you’re asking a question, but I think you’re telling all of us a beautiful love story! I’m sure you know the answer to your own question, which is to say that “no” you will never stop bickering with your husband over money. After 27 years of relating to each other in this way, neither of you are going to change. One marriage research project I read found that every long-term marriage has that thing (or those things) that they bicker about until “death do us part”. The issue never gets resolved (a key point to take note of…) and couples are good to not expect it to. Yet, over time, they find their own way of staying connected in spite of their differences. Ahhh…feel the love? I do! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ • Has the way that the two of you bicker about money changed much in the past 20 years? • If not, why would you want to change things now? • If the bickering has escalated, are there other stresses in your marriage besides money? • What is your pattern for coming back together after disagreements? • How can you shorten the time you spend cussing and discussing, and get down to the business of reconnecting? Do you fight over money

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Rules For Dating Multiple Girlfriends At Once; How One Man Manages 4 Girlfriends

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/6.27.15/6.27.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: 9 Rules To Make Multiple Relationships Work @ 0:00 One Man’s 4 Girlfriends, Part 1 @ 6:40 One Man’s 4 Girlfriends, Part 2 @ 23:16 6 Do’s and Don’ts of Dating Multiple Women at Once @ 42:45 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center Sunflower Bank The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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