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Relationship Red Flags; Long Distance Love; Question Moving Forward; Pitfalls Of Denying Red Flags

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/5.23.15/5.23.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: Relationship Red Flags @ 0:00 Long Distant Love Connection @ 4:44 Question Moving Relationship Forward @ 22:20 Pitfalls of Denying Red Flags @ 43:19 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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9 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

9 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

When you’re new to a relationship, the flutter of attraction and romance can disguise the reality of the person you are dating. If you’re not paying attention to these 9 red flags, you could find yourself in a relationship with, not the person of your dreams, but the partner of your nightmares. The first 4 red flags focus on their past, their past, their past. 1. Past history of abuse. 2. Past history of addictions. 3. Past history of cheating. If you find out that your new love interest brought any one of these three things to their past relationships, you don’t have to look further for red flags. What you do have to do is honestly ask yourself if you are willing to be in a relationship where you will be abused, cheated on, or have to deal with their addiction. It’s not a matter of thinking that these things “might” affect you. They “will” affect you. The only hope for these 3 biggest red flags to turn from a big red “STOP!” sign, into a yellow “CAUTION!” sign, is if they readily accept personal responsibility and are actively working a program for change. While abuse, addictions and cheating can weave its way through a relationship in ways that aren’t always an absolute relationship deal breaker, the 4th red flag is undeniably problematic. 4. Past history of criminal activity. If you find out that the person you are dating has a criminal history and spent time in jail, you can assume they were guilty no matter what story they spin. That also holds true for any order of protection for stalking or domestic violence. In these instances, our legal system has done the work for you of determining this person has a serious red flag in their history. 5.

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Red Flags In Dating Relationship?

Red Flags In Dating Relationship?

My boyfriend of 2 years has a long history of dating, and sleeping with, many women. I know that he cheated on his last girlfriend, but I cheated on my husband, so I have no room to judge. I don’t trust him, I know he sometimes texts old girlfriends, but I also know he’s been faithful to me. I’m afraid my distrust will drive him away. …and you may be right…failure to find the “trust” you need in this relationship may drive the two of you apart. What you both have brought to your relationship is baggage, truckloads of it! You both have a history of cheating, so it is reasonable for either of you to mistrust. I have been known to caution someone who’s thinking of entering into a relationship with a known cheater, as people are more apt to repeat past behavior. Yet, we do not live in a perfect world. If you are concerned about your mistrust driving him away (even though you do trust that he has been faithful) I’m guessing that he’s been warning you of this possibility. If you want to keep your man you MUST pay heed! Don’t turn a blind eye to his connections with old girlfriends. Instead, approach this issue with open, honest conversation that is voiced in a matter-of-fact, taking-care-of-business way. Pay attention to your tone of voice. Take the accusing, whining, nagging out of these conversations. Leave that for your bitch sessions with girlfriends. We women are emotional creatures and too much emotion makes our men crazy. Save the crazy for the bedroom and you’ll have a win/win on your hands! Embrace your Personal Power with Life Coaching~ • Could some of your mistrust be coming from within and the fact that you don’t trust yourself in this relationship?

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4 Reasons Good Girls Date Bad Boys; A Man’s Perspective On Bad Boys; Do Nice Guys Have Weak Sperm; Do Women Want to Be Manhandled In Bed

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/5.16.15/5.16.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: 4 Reasons Good Girls Like Bad Boys @ 0:00 A Male Perspective On Women And Bad Boys, Part 1 @ 3:07 A Male Perspective On Women And Bad Boys, Part 2 @ 21:41 Do Nice Guys Have Weak Sperm? Do Women Want To Be Manhandled In Bed? @ 42:56 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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8 Reasons Good Girls Fall For Bad Boys

8 Reasons Good Girls Fall For Bad Boys

Why don’t you leave him? Why do you let him treat you so bad? These are the questions your friends and family may be asking you if you’re in a relationship with a bad boy who mistreats you, cheats on you, or just tears you down. If you yourself have begun to wonder why you stay, look for your answer in these 8 reasons good girls fall for bad boys. 1. They want a project boy Many good women see themselves as “fixers”. They want to fix their bad boy. They believe the “victim stories” these men have told them about why they’re broken, and these good women believe that with enough love and compassion they can help him change. What they don’t realize is that these “victim stories” can be a way for these men to deny responsibility for their bad behavior. 2. The martyr syndrome The women who has given all of herself to helping fix her bad boy, or to surviving his mean, cheating, lying ways, sees herself as helpless or trapped. She gains some psychological reward for being the victim. That, or her religious beliefs, where self-sacrifice is an honorable way to live, keeps her in a relationship that is clearly not good for her. 3. He reminds her of Dear Old Dad If your father was himself a bad boy or was emotionally unavailable, you’re more likely to fall for a bad boy in an attempt to right the wrong that was dealt you with a distant, cold, or mean father. This time around, you’re going to fix things and make your relationship right. 4. They’re ostriches living with their head in the sand Bury your head deep enough, and you can’t see what’s going on around you. These good girls deny just how bad

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The First I Met A Transgender Female

The First I Met A Transgender Female

Transgender is in the news with the announcement by Bruce Jenner, our American Olympic hero, that he is transgender and making the transition from male to female. Yet, how many of us have actually had the opportunity to sit down and talk frankly with a transgender person to hear their side of the story? In October 2011 I had that opportunity when I interviewed Stephanie Mott, the Executive Director of the Kansas Statewide Transgender Education Project. It was an eye-opening conversation which prompted me to write this blog differently than my other blogs. I’m going to relay in a brutally honest way the very personal reactions and feelings I had when meeting and interviewing a transgender female, Stephanie Mott. Before you read on, however, I want you to know that Stephanie stands out as one of my most favorite radio talk show guests. Her spirit moved me. It was a privilege to meet her. These are my reactions to my first meeting with a transgender female, Stephanie Mott Of course, the first thing I did when Stephanie walked in the door was size up her outfit, how she looked and what she was wearing. That’s not to say that, being female, I don’t do that with every woman I meet, but this just seemed different. I had a heightened awareness of the fact that in walked a female Stephanie, who had been born a male Stephen. While I consider myself open and accepting of all people, I’m ashamed to say I was momentarily panicked when needing to direct Stephanie to the restroom. Men’s room, or Lady’s room? I’d never been in this situation before and for a moment I didn’t know what to do. Having to make a split second decision, I know I made the right one by directing

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Bully Boss; Poor Manager; Road Rage, 6 Habits Of Road Ragers

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/5.2.15/5.2.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: 10 Tips For Dealing With Bully Boss @ 0:00 Poor Manager @ 5:13 Trouble With Road Rage @ 25:16 6 Habits of Road Ragers @ 42:45 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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In Prison For Murdering Pastor; Prisoner Redemption; Prison Reform

http://joanjerkovich.com/podcasts/4.25.15/4.25.15Podcast.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSPodcast Segments: In Prison For Murdering Pastor, Part 1 @ 0:00 Murdering Pastor, Forgiveness, Part 2 @ 20:59 Murdering Pastor, Redemption, Part 3 @ 32:18 Prison Reform @ 43:14 Brought to you by: Martinelli’s Little Italy Hospice of Salina Bennington State Bank Dignity Care Home Freddy’s Frozen Custard and Steakburgers Peaceful Body Wellness Retreat Sunflower Carpet One Preventative Medicine Center The Joan Jerkovich Show News Radio 1150 KSAL with Live-streaming Saturdays @ 6am & Sundays @ 9pm CST Click HERE to send Joan your Life Coaching questions Join the conversation and post your respectful comments anonymously. We learn from each other!

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Angry Over Brother’s Murder?

Angry Over Brother's Murder?

Many years ago my brother was murdered, in what we suspect, was a drug deal gone bad. The police ended up finding his killer and he’s been in jail without parole since. Everyday I think of my brother and what he would say to me if he were alive. I’m still mad at him for putting himself in such bad circumstances. I don’t know what he was thinking. It was so dangerous doing what he was. I feel an emptiness without him here. Why am I still so angry after all this time? We are always angriest with the people we love the most. You loved your brother. It’s understandable that you feel angry with him for his part in ending his life, an ending that took him away from you. It’s good that you’re allowing yourself to feel these feelings of anger and emptiness. It reminds me of that saying, “the only way out is through.” Sometimes the way to move beyond painful emotions is to dive deeper in to them. Allow them to resurface and move you toward healing. What you’re experiencing is the resurgence of a smoldering emotional pain. The pain of losing your brother that you have probably covered over with a degree of denial, so that you didn’t have to re-live the acute pain of your loss and grief that you first felt when he died. Often, we like to avoid emotional pain. Yet, just as a broken bone can take months and years to heal, painful emotions also need time to resolve; and just like the broken bone, a break in our emotional countenance will take time to heal. Many persons find physical pain and suffering easier to cope with than emotional pain. In order to tamp down emotional pain they might hold on

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Is This Teen Questioning Her Sexuality?

Is This Teen Questioning Her Sexuality?

My best friend started dating this boy. We are in 7th grade and I think she’s doing in to fit in. Other girls in our class are staring to go on dates. My friend and I have been really close since grade school. I don’t think this boy is her type. She has been trying to get me to hook up with one of his friends. No thanks! Some of his friends are ok but most of them are stupid. I really miss spending time with my friend because she is always with this guy. Last year she said she hated boys and that we would be together forever. I just don’t understand. Should I get a boyfriend so she will be jealous? It sounds as if you are questioning your friend’s statement that “she hated boys” and that you “would be together forever.” Did that sound to you like she was somehow romantically interested in or attracted to you? Are you interested in your girlfriend in that way? Do you have a “crush” on her but find boys stupid and uninteresting? You’re the age to be discovering your sexuality, that being, whether you’re gay or straight. This can be scary and confusing, but answer these 3 questions to help you understand your sexual orientation: 1. Who do you “crush on”? 2. Who do you fantasize about? 3. Who do you feel romantic toward? If you find yourself attracted to girls, and not boys, don’t get down on yourself. Seek out understanding and supportive friends and adults who can help you honor and understand your being attracted to a same-sex person. Particularly challenging can be a young person who is realizing they may be gay, yet that is in conflict with the beliefs of their family or religion. If this is

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